dgirl07

So I've been dating this guys for a couple of months and things were great until a few weeks ago. I heard that he cheated on me, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Simply because the source of the information is a girl who has been sort of obsessed with him in the past. I let it go, but things got a little weird after that he became really distant and we hardly talked or saw each other. So I ended things I didn't want to be in a relationship with a guy who couldn't give me the time of day. I asked him not to text me or call me.

About 2 weeks after I ended it he text me, he was full of apologies and explanations for his behavior. We started talking again, but I didn't have any real expectations for the situation, I figured we'd just be friends, but he surprised me and told me he loved me and asked if I would take him back, which I did. Everything was great for a few days, we were talking all the time, hanging out, and then his behavior reverted back to hardly talking to me, and hes been like this for a few days now. If I ask him about it he says everythings fine, but hes still short and distant.

I'm just not sure what to think of actions. I haven't forced the relationship on him in any way. Its been him who has initiated the relationship, and while I do want to be with him, I haven't said or done anything to force a relationship. I even made a point to let him know that being just friends was fine with me. I have a long history with this guy, he means a lot to me, but he isn't a good communicator and I'm not one to force a conversation. I posted a thread about him a while back that might give some extra insight into our history and relationship if necessary.

Any advice or thoughts on his crazy behavior would be greatly appreciated!

CHANDLERS WISH

Hey stranger

Well some people are still here, such as Corey, Little, myself who replied all that time ago but alot are new.

So, was this they guy you went out with for 15 months and he left because he thought you were controlling but came back?

Or is this someone else, haha it was so long ago..

Full the new members in a bit so we can all reply.

Good to see you back.

CW

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OhThereYouAre

Where his head is?

His head is on sex.

That's all he wants.

When he wants it, he's crawling back.

I'm assuming he got all distant again right after you guys hd sex again....what a pity.

Show some self respect. If you don't demand it, who will?

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dgirl07

CW-

Good to know you're still here. This is the guy that I've had an on-off relationship with for about 5 years. We dated in high school, broke up, each had serious long term relationships, he has a 2 year old son with his ex girlfriend. We've both been single for about a year, but have been in constant contact for much of the last year. It wasn't up until a few months ago that we made things official and decided to see each other exclusively. Thats the basics of our story. Hopefully that gives everyone a better idea of whats going on.

OhThereYouAre-

I would completely agree with your thoughts...if I was having sex with him. Which I'm not. I've made it very clear to him that until I'm in a commited stable relationship he won't be getting any from me...I don't see why a guy would want to be in a relationship solely for sex if he isn't getting any...wouldn't he rather be single so he has a chance with more women?

CHANDLERS WISH

[quote=dgirl07;116021]CW-

Good to know you're still here. This is the guy that I've had an on-off relationship with for about 5 years. We dated in high school, broke up, each had serious long term relationships, he has a 2 year old son with his ex girlfriend. We've both been single for about a year, but have been in constant contact for much of the last year. It wasn't up until a few months ago that we made things official and decided to see each other exclusively. Thats the basics of our story. Hopefully that gives everyone a better idea of whats going on.


I think that he remembers the good times, the easiness of it all and that he was trapped right? With the baby thing.

I also think that any man whom is sexual and accepts not sleeping with his woman, and you hear that he cheated, he probably did, whilst waiting for you to give it up.

I also think that when they say "I love you" it's words, if in the next breathe they go back and treat you cold.

I think you have to be careful.. and I think you don't give it up at all, I suspect he is getting it after all, think on this, he left the woman who bore his child which probably said "oops" sorry didn't mean to get pregnant and is trying to just be free.. I do get that he can go back to the woman whom he was on and off with for 5 years, but I don't get that he would not want sex or try it on... I don't..

OTYA what happened before you met your lady? I'm sorry but you so keep judging people and in addition you keep dissing people " show some self respect".

Please think before you speak.. as this lady has said, she hasn't had sex with him...

You need to show some respect yourself..

May I suggest you ask questions before assuming...

You know I respect you, but your not showing much back these days.

CW

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OhThereYouAre

Awesome. Keep your guard up!

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"It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit..."

"People who lack the sense to question Big Lies always end up in deep trouble..."

"I don't worry about pointing fingers in the past...i operate under the assumption that every saint has a past and every sinner has a future..."

"Build the life you want and then find someone to share it with, someone who fits where you are and where you are going..."

OhThereYouAre

[QUOTE=CHANDLERS WISH;116030]Nothing has happened to me in the past that I didn't have coming, nor that I couldn't handle.

I tend to take a tougher approach to things. Sometimes its difficult to get to the heart of what I mean without sounding abrasive. And body language is non existent over the internet.

I speculated a probable outcome and was wrong.

Just know if I was talking to this individual in person, my hand would be on their shoulder, I'd be looking them in the eyes, and we'd go for drinks afterwards.

It's not dissing...it doesn't do me any good putting others down. Rather my words are a call to action.

Life is a learning experience....i'm still working on a more gentle approach.

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"It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit..."

"People who lack the sense to question Big Lies always end up in deep trouble..."

"I don't worry about pointing fingers in the past...i operate under the assumption that every saint has a past and every sinner has a future..."

"Build the life you want and then find someone to share it with, someone who fits where you are and where you are going..."

WildChild

Ah, you are also one who suffers from the fact that a twinkle in the eye, question in the voice or look of sympathy doesn't translate into writing. I laugh a lot but you can't always hear it on paper or a screen.
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You too? Technology is a witch huh?

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