Yall

Basically I've known this guy for a year now and I've always been mildly attracted to him but recently developed stronger feelings for him. I've started to get closer to him and him to me, I kind of guessed that he liked me too. But he had a girlfriend at the time so I just pretended to have no feelings for him in that way.
However we started seeing each other more and more then one time we went to an orchard (I know that sounds weird, but yeah we were just pratting about). We kissed and just got really physically close...
Oh by the way, he had just broke up with his girlfriend like two weeks before.
I know what your thinking, these circumstances are just screaming REBOUND!!! He said he has feelings for me and that he shouldn't of acted on them because he just broke up with his girlfriend (who by the way cheated on him in the first week they were going out.. plus he said that he was in a relationship he didnt want to be in) Yeah anyway, I asked him if I was the rebound girl, he said no because he didn't need one and that he liked me too much.
So we decided to be just friends, even though I want to be his girlfriend, but he needs time to figure out things with the ex (shes not getting the break-up, she thinks that they will get back together)
But the thing is what should I do now!? Its been 3 weeks since it happened and to be honest its been really hard to treat him as a friend because all I want to do is kiss him...Should I give him time and wait or just try and get over him?

OhThereYouAre

Just a suggestion-Guys on the rebound are looking for sex, not for romantic walks in the orchard. That being said, I don't think you are a rebound girl to him.

I started dating about a week after I broke up with my last ex. I started a relationship a couple months later.

I was mentally over my last relationship before it officially ended. That could be the case with your guy.

On the rebound, women look for support and sympathy. Men, on the other look for drunken, sex filled escapades.

I think you're safe with this one. Take it slow...respect his space....if he's worth it he'll do the same to you.

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Kallygirlie

well what I have to say may make you feel better but dont think all situations are the same. i went through what you are going through. Only difference, I wasn't really good friends with my BF before the break up. I was his gf best friend. She cheated on him, they broke up. he wrote a blog about it, it told him I'm here if he needed a friend. That was in August, by september we had kissed and by October we had slept together. I tried so hard to stay his friend and not let my feelings grow for him but i couldn't control it. Him and his ex still lived together. Was he on the rebound, heck yeah. He would sleep with me then wake up the next morning and tell me about this other girl, or a few days later tell me how he thinks him and his ex are going to be able to work it out. It was hard, really hard. I finally told him how i felt about him, i think that made it worse at the time cause he got really really confused. after I told him, all i did is just became a friend. We slept together about every other month but we talked everyday. If he needed to talke to me about her, then I was there. I didn't judgem Inside of course i was being shredded. He told me he had feelings for me but he wanted to make sure he was over her before we got together. finally after 9 months of all this I finally gave up. I told him I'm tired of waiting for him to get over her cause I knew it would never happen. He wouldn't let it. I told him I was talking to someone else (which was true). Within 2 weeks he came to my house and asked if we could make us offical. that was a yr and 4 months ago and we are a very stable happy couple. His ex? thing of the past, we talke about her because I'm still friends with her but really we are very happy. Just be patient. theres alot of things I did like trying to push him that I regretted. Just be there for him but dont give up sex i thats what he's looking for. its hard but worth it

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GlitterAndStuds

It sounds like he's into you (because like OTYA said, if he was just in it for rebound sex, he would've gone for the gold by now). But take things slow anyway. Regardless of whether he considers you a rebound or not, he still just broke up with someone and needs time to get out of that mentality and focus on you. Yes, he could have been done with relationship before it actually ended, but everyone needs some time to adjust to not being with that person anymore.

You were being smart by asking right off the bat what his intentions are and being aware of any other possibilities. But I don't think it sounds like a rebound thing. Just go with the flow Good luck!

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CHANDLERS WISH

He sounds half decent, by stating that he shouldn't have kissed you having just ended a relationship for two reasons, 1) for you and 2) for the ex, regardless of what she has done, they were together for a period of time, in addition she cheated at the beginning but he remained with her, like it or not but there still would be feelings.

He definately needs to get over that, or get back with her, ( it may happen ) so don't be suprised and maybe even date a bit for fun to get past it all.

By being his friend, you can remember that kiss as long as you want, chances are he will too but if he's not interested in more, time will tell you that.

Get on with your life and see what happens in the future..

But, don't sit around going crazy over this. What is meant to be will be.

CW

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