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Originally Posted by confusedbyhim
He has some of my stuff and I need it back. I asked him for it last night and he said what is your worry I am not going to steal it or sell it I will give it back when I can. Then he said he hated me and that I am a psycho and please to leave his life an dto never bother him again. I feel like I am on a roller coaster and this has been since two weeks ago. I am honestly completely frustrated. I wish I could afford therapy and I can't. How can I love someone when they treat me this way. How do I stop myself from calling him when I get the urge? What do you guys recommend to keep me strong and IF he tries to look for me be able to say NO!
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I have to be frank again and agree with OTYA. Getting your stuff back is just an excuse to see him again and therefore hopefully change his mind. It definitely sounds like that won't be happening. I'm sure whatever it is of yours that he has, is replaceable. Trust me, my last roommate has a bunch of my stuff that I wouldn't mind getting back, but not dealing with it is way more important. I can just replace all of it. Nothing I can't live without, and you seem to be doing fine without that stuff.
If you ever feel yourself reaching for the phone, do something else. Put it away, turn it off, whatever. Go shoe shopping, take a bubble bath, read a book. It sounds way easier than it really is, but it IS doable. You don't need to say No. You don't need to say anything at all, actually. Don't even tell him that you're cutting him out. He's already made it clear that he WANTS you to do that. Just cut your losses and move on. Life's too short to deal with this grief. I understand that you love him... and it's hard... but you CAN do it. And you WILL feel better eventually.
10-13-2009, 02:52 PM
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