confusedbyhim

Please read my previous posts.....

This weekend I did not communicate with him by choice or anything.

I ran into him at a couple of places. First on Saturday he wanted me and a friend to go eat at his house...well I already had plans with my friend so I went with her.

He told me that we could rent movies and order dinner. I said maybe I will go by after I eat with my friend. He said fine....when I left dinner I decided to call him even though he had said just to come over.

I asked if he still wanted me there and he said oh I am tired I thought you were coming straight over obviously you don't want to come....I said well I will if you still want me to go. He said I am going to bed.....

Then yesterday, I called him as he had told me to do on Saturday, so I did. It was about 3:30pm and i asked him what he was up to. He said driving around the beach with a friend of his that now lives with him.

I said oh okay talk to you later then. Then he started questioning where I was...my response I am okay doing my thing he got all upset said that I was avoiding the question. then he hung up on me....2minutes later he was pulling up to where I was at (we have horses at a farm him at one and me at the other) When he pulls up he asked me to go to his truck when I do his friend does not even say good afternoon and I tell my Ex BF that he needs to relax.....he gets upset and pulls off.

I call him to ask why he left and he says cause you are being stupid and I have my own stuff to do at my farm. I called him 30 min later to see if he wanted to go ride and he tells me no. I decide to go ride with a friend of mine. He called like 45 min later and asked if I had drank the water that was in the fridge at his barn...I told him no but that I had some water in the fridge at my barn if he needed it he said no and hung up.

I went riding and another 30 min pass (6:15pm) and he called again oh you tell me to come get the water and you leave I told him where it was at and he hung up. (that time he called me and the friend that I was riding with).

Then around 7:30pm he called me again and I missed the call, then he called my friend and asked if I was with her and to pls have me call him.

She said ok and when I got back to the barn I called him and he did not pick up. Then he called and I missed the call and he called my friend again. Then I called him back and he said to me "why do I always have to call soemone else to reach you" I said I was riding a horse that requires both hands and you know it....he hung up on me.

What happens next is where I went wrong....I called him a bunch I asked him what he needed he wouldn't say he said I needed to calm down...then he kept hanging up on me saying that I was psycho and a bunch of trash, even as far as saying that his friend says I need psychological help and all kinds of things.

Then I asked on one of the phone calls "Do you want me out of your life" his resposne was "YES! YES! PLEASE!" then I said goodnight and hung up.

Then he called me and when I picked up I said " Keep listening to your frind he gives you good advice" and I hung up....Then he called again and I said " Look I care too much about you to keep on like to keep on arguing like this....you said you want me out and I am out that's it. TAke your friends advice obviously he knows what he is talking about...." he ended up hanging up on me.

Why is he doing this....why keep calling then being stupid when I return the calls? ALso why lie about ebing at the beach? How do I stop my self from calling after he hangs up I get so mad that he gets his word in but I can't get mine.

It really bothers me that he throws what his friend says in my face. What to do now....I have not called him and won't...what do I do?

OhThereYouAre

Well, the general consensus last week was to let him go.

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WildChild

He's playing head games and you are letting him. Ignore his calls. He can take care of his own stuff in his own barn and life. If you find him unconscious, thrown by a horse call for help, otherwise ignore him.

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LanaBear

You need to stop communicating with him, stop talking to him and everything else. Just STOP.

He's playing games with you because he can and you let him. Stop giving him the opportunity.

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CHANDLERS WISH

You should really stick to the same thread sweet, not all know how to look up your other posts to get a picture.

He insults you.
He continually "harrases you"
He accuses you of not answering you.

He has physcological problems himself...

Change your mobile number... and get on with your life.

CW

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GlitterAndStuds

I agree with everyone else, IGNORE HIM. To put it bluntly, he's an as* and he's totally wasting your time. He's the one who's harrassing you at all hours, then calls you a psycho for acknowledging it.

It's hard to do, but you need to NOT answer his constant phone calls/texts, do NOT call him back if he calls your friends and make sure he can't just show up wherever you are whenever he feels like it.

You're not in a relationship but he's still trying to control you. He's trying to keep himself on your radar. You just need to cut him off completely.

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confusedbyhim

He has some of my stuff and I need it back. I asked him for it last night and he said what is your worry I am not going to steal it or sell it I will give it back when I can. Then he said he hated me and that I am a psycho and please to leave his life an dto never bother him again. I feel like I am on a roller coaster and this has been since two weeks ago. I am honestly completely frustrated. I wish I could afford therapy and I can't. How can I love someone when they treat me this way. How do I stop myself from calling him when I get the urge? What do you guys recommend to keep me strong and IF he tries to look for me be able to say NO!

Tex

Eject! Eject! Eject!

OhThereYouAre

That's an excuse to see him. Is it really the end of the world if he's got a t-shirt of yours or some CD's? He said he'll get it back on his own time. Let him.

I'm baffled as to why isn't that enough to quit associating with this man. He has NO respect for you. To be honest - I wouldn't either. He is telling you to leave and you are *not* listening. Quit it. What good could possibly come from badgering this guy?

You can end this roller coaster ride anytime you choose. You do that by cutting him out of your life.

You don't need therapy regarding this matter...you just answered your own question.

Just don't do it. It takes LESS effort to do nothing than to pick up the phone. We can't do anything here except give you advice, which incidentally, you are not following at all. Your own self control is up to you. If you want to stay in an abusive relationship, that is your own choice.

Make the final mental note in your head that this guy is out of your life for good and then don't look back.

Good luck.

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"It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit..."

"People who lack the sense to question Big Lies always end up in deep trouble..."

"I don't worry about pointing fingers in the past...i operate under the assumption that every saint has a past and every sinner has a future..."

"Build the life you want and then find someone to share it with, someone who fits where you are and where you are going..."

prawnprincess

Well, I would say that your best bet would be to somehow get yourself out of your current environment. That would probably be the most worthwhile decision you could make right now. You can make anything happen if you want- but if you have excuses about why you can't do that, then I think you'll have a tougher time leaving this jerk.