pianolover

I live in a small city in northern China. I will turn 38 years old in November this year. I am still single, don't have a boyfriend. Almost all my firends my age around me are married and have kids.

I feel tormented lately about still being single. But I don't want a man in my city, I would like to leave my city for a better life.

I have been preparing for the International English Test early next year. If I pass it, I will have a chance to immigrate to Canada. But it takes one year to get the immigration visa. And since the ecomony is a turndown everywhere, I am not sure If I will be able to find a job there.

It is just hard for me to be lonely every day.

If you would be in my situation, what would you do?

kms

Hi pianolover, or should i say 'ni hao ma'? Many of my Asian friends from Taiwan, Japan, and Korea often use matchmaking services and websites. I would think China has something similar? That may be your best option at this point, because if you are from a small city, your options are obviously limited. Having a profile on a website will allow men from areas outside your city to read more about you and contact you if they are interested. Likewise, you can contact men that look interesting to you. China is a very large country with a LOT of people - so surely there must be a few men in your situation as well.

I would caution against seeing Canada as the land of marriage and men - the problems you have in China will likely be the same in Canada, only magnified because then you'll be dealing with cultural and language differences.

WildChild

Are there any clubs or interest groups you could join? Maybe to learn more about doing a special kind of art, or a nature group or something where you might people with the same interests?

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kygirl

Hey Pianolover, I think you'll find there are dating issues no matter where you travel. I am in the U.S. and I still find it hard to meet people sometimes. I think online dating services are a great way to meet people that you may have things in common with. I also like WC's idea about joining a group or club if you have any interests.

Good luck!

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Don't worry about age

That's your first step... Find you first and then he will find you...

It's difficult being lonely and so you must start to be happier for now where you are, as people are suggesting, get out more and gain more friends.

You could join a dating site but seriously 30% are players and 50% are broken with baggage and 15% are too old for you or too young But if you keep that in the back of your mind, then you can at least go on dates to remind yourself your beautiful, to remind yourself what dating is like and just use it to keep in the loop...

CW

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