Thread: There's a fine line between being busy and blowing someone off

Originally Posted by kygirl

How do you really know the difference?
I'm a little paranoid, I'll admit because of past things, but I have flat out ASKED guys before if they were trying to blow me off and they'd say no, only to drop me a week or two later.

Confronting a guy about this is only going to hurt your relationship. If he is trying to blow you off, he won't like being caught. If he isn't, he won't like you thinking he's the kind of person who'd do something like that. This is lose-lose.

I understand being busy or wanting alone time, but I do think it's kind of rude to not return a phone call or text message. . .
I saw him on Sunday, but I hadn't spoken with him in any way, shape or form since then. I called him last night with no response.

Changing the way you leave him messages can get him to call you back more. A guy will treat a message that consists of you talking about something as information. He'll know he's supposed to know that information the next time the two of you talk, but he won't always pick up on the idea that the real reason you're talking into his message machine might be because you miss him and you'd like to hear from him.

A good way to get him to call you back would be to word your messages so that the appropriate response to your message would be for him to call you back. Ask questions that require his input. Invite him to something he has to RSVP for. If his guy mind can understand why you want him to call you back, he'll probably do it.

Originally Posted by sourpuss

If someone doesn't have time to respond to a text within four days then they aren't so much busy as they are blowing you off.
That being said, I hate text, who knows if they really got it. It just goes into textland.

No matter how busy someone is, if they want to see someone, they will make the time to return a phone call. Simple.

I've used the "textland" excuse when I've blown someone off before, hehe. I have to admit, I blow a lot of guys off. Especially the ones I just met who want to come over and hang out and "watch movies" on the "couch". I know what that means. I am probably the rudest when it comes to blowing people off. Yeah, I'm that .