kygirl

Okay so not wasting anytime being back on the market. I guess I'm one of those people that takes forever to make a decision, but once I do, I'm going with it.

The question is... I'm 28... In your opinion, how young is too young for me to date? And why would you say that?( reasoning) Same thing on how old is too old...

Background on me... I'd like to maybe settle down and get married in the next 3-5 years. I may or may not want to have kids (kinda up in the air still). I still go out with friends about once a month, sometimes twice depending on my schedule. I also am cool with staying at home some though. I obviously am super busy with work and school.

And of course, there are reasons why I'm asking but we'll keep those to their own post later on. TIA everyone

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WildChild

Took me a moment to get what you are asking. LOL, I was thinking, well at 28 she's plenty old to be dating!

At your age I wouldn't go under 24, simply because you want someone who has finished at least their undergrad work, had a little time in the job market and for growing up. Of course this varies widely but in general there is a lot of maturing that goes on up into your early 30s.

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Little

I don't think there is a "too young" or "too old" ... there are circumstantial things.
For instance ... I'm 21, done with undergrad, was ready to settle down a bit. There are some 25 year olds who have just started college and their partying days have just begun!
You have to decide where their daily and fundamental values coincide with yours, where they crash, and what that means to you. From your other posts, I would urge you to date near your own age, just because you are well into the "serious" parts of your life, law school, your own bills, etc ... the list goes on. Somebody whose mommy and daddy are still footing the bill may not understand or respect that.
But then again someone with a more youthful spirit could give you an uplift you need. Take it on a person-by-person basis! Every man is special, regardless of his age, just like every woman.

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kygirl

LOL sorry WC, I probably could have worded that better Thanks for the input though. I do think I need to stick with someone closer to my age. My problem seems to be that lately, everyone I run into is older or younger. My issue with older at this point in time is that I am not quite ready to have a family and dont' have time to commit to that... at the same time, I dont' want to date someone who wouldn't be ready to settle down for another 10 years.

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kygirl

Thanks Little! I completely agree with you. And I guess I'm strange because at 23/24 I was ready to settle down and now I'm not again. I guess it just depends on the person and what I want really. I mean, I'm sure I can date whomever, but really have to consider where I want to end up. I definitely think I'd have to have someone who understands the paying for bills, but I've been doing that since I was 19 years old and I know some people who are my age that still have their parents footing the bills, so I guess that's not always an age thing...

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OhThereYouAre

What part of KY you in?

I've got some single friends.....

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kygirl

Ha ha.. I'm not near Cincy. I'm in the Lville area. But that would be a funny story... "so tell me how you met..." "well, I was on this message board, the this guy had these friends... "

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Tex

One guy I know swears by 'half your age plus seven'. Basically you divide your age by two and add seven years to find the youngest you can date. It's 21 in your case. I guess the reverse, subtract seven years and double the age, could work to find the oldest. It's 42 for you.

But I really don't think that there is any magic age formula that you could or should use. Maybe there's a 20 year old or a 45 year old out there that's perfect for you. It depends on so many more factors than age.

kygirl

Yeah I realize that you can't say "this is the perfect age". I've dated 24 year olds that acted my age and 35 year olds that still had no idea what they wanted. So it's really just hit or miss. I guess I just wonder if there is some point (minus a few exceptions) where you really have to say "okay, that's just way too young".

Part of that comes from the fact that it seemed like when I was out this weekend, most of the guys hitting on me were young. Now I realize there are lots of younger people at the bars, but it seemed like most of them were 22/23 and they didn't apparently realize I was 28

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Tex

I'd bet they wouldn't care if they knew you were 28.

Too young or too old depends strictly on your comfort zone. But who cares about age if you truly like someone? Maybe other people would want to make remarks if there is a noticeable age difference, but it wouldn't be their relationship and therefore not their business either.