asiangrace86

Okay, so I know that there are a LOT bigger and deeper issues on this than "what kind of ring" blah blah blah. I'm not trying to be trivial, this is just more out of curiousity than a problem!

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and we have talked about wedding, marriage, etc. I was wondering how you "clue" a guy in on what kind of ring you'd like? I have always been very "low maintenance" by nature, but I want the ring special.

I know what kind of ring I'd like, but do you have any suggestions on how to tell him? Or should I just let him pick it out and surprise me?

x.st.angel.x

Well if i was you lol i'd somehow take him shopping with me and just 'happen' to walk past a jewelery store that has rings on display and just casually point and say: "wow, that one is lovely!"

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Fish

Find a picture/description of it online and leave it on his computer for him to see it next time he uses it...or just tell him! If you're going to marry this guy then no conversation should be off limits, right?

x.st.angel.x

I agree with Fish, if you really want a certain type of ring just tell him lol

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caterpillar79

Assert yourself. If you can't do it now, when will you? Go ahead and tell him, it won't hurt. It's more a matter of how you say what you want to say.

(I personally would rather wait for him to take the lead though - but only because I know my man. In my case, he will present me the ring when he wanted to, how he wanted it. He'll get to choose it, unless he asks for my input. He's the man, he takes the lead. I will speak up if need be). This is if I were to speak for my own.

I trust that you have the answer in your heart - listen to it. It will not mislead you on this. Trust your instincts.

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OhThereYouAre

Why dont' you wait until he asks you what kind of ring you would like?

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ThexMrs

Lol... All of these are good ideas though, does the man really ask you what KIND you'd like? I've never seen that happen with any of my friends. They just end up getting whatever he picked out already.

If you're nervous about this, make it fun. Draw a picture on the mirror while he's in the shower and it's all steamed up. Then leave the room and wait for him. Hopefully he'll notice. I know with my ex he did not pick up on hints even when it came to sex. He's super dense but still the LOML.

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caterpillar79

I really push for WAITING for him to give you it. Don't you trust his taste?

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GlitterAndStuds

I kind of have the same feelings. Granted, sometimes I get nervous that something's gonna happen Sex and the City style, where he gets me a yellow gold, pear shaped diamond and I puke. Hahaha. But every time I think about it, I'd love to see what he picks out and what he thinks suits me. Either way it will be from him, it will mean that I get to be with him forever, and that's enough Awwwww cheeeese! Haha

Do you guys have mutual girl friends? Another idea is to maybe have one of your the ones who knows your taste "volunteer" to help him pick the ring out? That is if he knows any of them well enough. I know plenty of guys who have actually asked their girlfriend's friend to go with them and help them pick the right one, which I think is totally sweet.

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OhThereYouAre

I agree.

I'd be quite put off if I found "hints" for a ring lying around.

I think its pretty presumtuous of a person to "expect" or "push" their partner to buy an expensive diamond ring.

HOWEVER-

I don't think its presumptuous to accept it, though.

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'If you think you can or you can't, you're probably right..."

"It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit..."

"People who lack the sense to question Big Lies always end up in deep trouble..."

"I don't worry about pointing fingers in the past...i operate under the assumption that every saint has a past and every sinner has a future..."

"Build the life you want and then find someone to share it with, someone who fits where you are and where you are going..."