Age difference has become an issue for me after 5 years :(

**caterpillar79** · 11-16-2009 09:52 PM

Awesome, Mum. I like that! SecretlySad, share your list here - we would be more than willing to help you.

**SecretlySad** · 11-16-2009 10:12 PM

Ok the good things...

1. Is always thinking of me - I often come home to find gifts he has got for me while just out on his daily errands.
2. Tells me he loves me more than once, every single day, even after all this time.
3. Loves my family, and they love him.
4. Is a wonderful uncle to his nieces and nephews.
5. Is always wanting to help others - sometimes to the point where I am telling him to just butt out lol
6. Never leaves me alone on a night out with friends, is always making sure I am having a good time and if I'm not, we can leave anytime I say.
7. Is very trustworthy. If you tell him a secret he will take it to the grave.
8. Tells me things like if anything ever happened to me he would still take care of me because he loves me so much.
9. Is very clean and tidy - he is always the one telling me to pick my dirty shoes up lol.
10. Doesn't mind if I go out all weekend without him - tells me to go and have a blast.
11. Takes wonderful care of me on the weekends I have had a blast and am feeling a little... under the weather lol.

Wow. I don't know... if I think of anymore I will be sure to add them! This has been really great!

**caterpillar79** · 11-16-2009 10:26 PM

I like the fact that you are open about this list thing. If I may suggest though, I would prefer that you focus on him and you - what he does and does NOT do, and not what he thinks of the neighbor's dog, teenage sexual stuff, etc... What do you think?

**SecretlySad** · 11-16-2009 10:28 PM

Originally Posted by caterpillar79

I like the fact that you are open about this list thing. If I may suggest though, I would prefer that you focus on him and you - what he does and does NOT do, and not what he thinks of the neighbor's dog, teenage sexual stuff, etc... What do you think?

Oh, sure... sorry...

I was just saying it's those things that have made me look at him in a different light at times..

**caterpillar79** · 11-16-2009 10:32 PM

I understand that. Feel free to do as you wish. I was just trying to reconcile the + and - areas of your issues for now, hence the request. Just like in a study, we need to have our scope narrowed down so as to get more valid results.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-16-2009 10:36 PM

Cat you and I think alike

**SecretlySad** · 11-16-2009 10:39 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

So, how about affection?

How about when you used to sleep with him, was it sex or intimate?

It was always sex. There is a lot of affection. I LOVE cuddling with him but as soon as his hands start wandering I think oh no..

**SecretlySad** · 11-16-2009 10:46 PM

I am heading home for the day. Yeah...
Thanks so much for your help today, guys.

xxxx

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-16-2009 11:09 PM

Between work, "computers" and here, how's your head today?

Hope you keep us posted...

CW

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-17-2009 01:58 AM

Age difference...
I was wondering if there are other women on here who are married to/have a relationship with a much older (or much younger) man... I would love to get to know you, just to chat a little... My husband is 26 years older than me. We have known each other for 20 years but didn't get married until last year. We are very happy...but people have called us strange things, to say the least...especially when I first moved in with him.