Thread: That Date!!!

People never cease to amaze me

So, off I went out on my little date.... The setting was "thoughtful", oyster bar, by the sea, wine, so I thought, which turned out to be "he'd eaten, naturally, his two girls were still at home, he arranged for the neighbors to look after them 11 &13. So, off course at some point, having established this, I went and ordered food.... He bought the wine.

Admittedly, I'm about the "inner person" not the outer, so trying to look at someone and see that inner person to start to "fall" ever so slightly for, made me look closely. Noting in my opinion that "perhaps" he may not be 43, rather older.

That Chemistry "wasn't there", I found him to be, I don't know, weedy? no shoulders.. anyways as I said, focus, CW, inner, inner.

Before we get to that part. The conversation - "a question about his work", oil and gas... (lost me a few times discussing infrastructure", yawn, shh CW... the conversations then turned, yep you guessed it, to the ex, who is now a "hippie" but wasn't "before"... ???? My stance on that was, well, she had to be Eco before hand, and now she is simply living the real her... how old is she? (43).. ahha... ok...

Then I got a picture show of a gorgeous home in another part of Australia, and explanation of this being his "friend" who lost everything and commenced developing, and this was his 3 storey home, modern, new and I noted that his "mobile" was one of those "huge" blackberrys?.. Is he going blind? Okay, 43...mmm..

So, no talk about why I never had children, my life, work, WH, haha, nothing on mutual ground going on here....

Then conversations regarding his last 3 dates "again"... one was 4 ft 5, stating she was 5 ft 4 until she turned up, one was into Vegetarian food, and massages, etc, and on the fourth date, organized a massage that turned into a "massage" and that turned him off, almost going into detail mind you, till I said, I don't need to know and the 3rd, 2nd date occurred and then nothing, no call, nothing.

He then tried to touch on sensuality/sexuality, horny, lol a conversation that I seem to ensure I have, after all I am not after someone whom is not passionate or non understanding of a woman, especially as I am a giver.... and proceeded to basically inform me of his staying power as well as understanding of my logic.. I didn't bring this conversation up mind you....then mentioned something about "shame I didn't have a hotel room", haha, okay... grrr.

A comment thrown my way as to the way I looked (darn hot) but besides that and then my question... Are you really 43?

"No"...

An explanation ... women on "dating sites" will not look for a man who states he is, ready? (52), where he seeks 40 - 45.. WTF?

Well, women don't like lier's either.

He went onto the logic of it, that once meeting a person it gives them the opportunity, he always admits upon meeting and so I said, uh hu, and what did they say? He said they were all fine with it. So, I said okay so that is why none of those dates worked then huh.. To which he proceeded to inform me 4 ft 5 was too short, he realized with the second one that BBQ's were out and that she was obsessive and he liked the third one but she reneged on speaking further after the second date.

Admittedly, he seemed grounded and passionate about life, but not "sharing" of conversations or "getting to know someone", skills. I think she ran after re-thinking her position.

He also is a dreamer, assuming that at 52 he can save enough to then obtain a house, I own mine well paying it off, and my business abode, I'm thinking how the heck you going to do that, at 43 maybe, 52?

Anyways, ranting here, but I knowwwww you want all the gossip.

I had a cigarette or two and he basically said, well you lied as you said you were a non-smoker. To that I stated, no, I joined that site for the Forum, you can't unless you put up a profile, simple and so the information wasn't for anyone for the dating purposes and I'm trying to quit, so I didn't lie at all... It wasn't relative at the time I placed the profile....

So, basically I told him, that I had already given him the run down on 3 dates over the past 12 months, once where the guy said 42 and was 52 and that, I advised him (I HATE LIERS), it's one of my pet hates, simple, can't change my thought pattern...

He tried to change that thought pattern, again by using logic as to why he did it.

Don't care.

Actually "confident jerk" was 51 but he's hot And, I'm still working on him and quitting smoking haha as that's his only problem with me and I know it, a past death in his family, we are due to go out again at some point before Xmas.

So, anyways, we walked along the Pier towards a taxi... he decided to put his arm around me, hehe. I decided not to do the same.

We got to the taxi, and I offered to swing past his first (one taxi) and then proceed to my place, but he had a "mate" in the hotel that "owed him money" so he was going to collect as arranged... mmm remember the mention about me having a hotel room?

So about to get in the taxi, turned to say goodbye, he decided to kiss the nape of my neck, and then a kiss on the lips and I got in the taxi. So, what he thought that perhaps appealing to my sexuality may work?

lol.

And, I proceeded home, deciding delete, delete, delete, dating sites, delete, get out more with your girlfriends, even if they are after sex, they are also after a relationship, so you know how to play that game CW...

So, there you have it....

Even when you can converse well, get on well, the proof is in the pudding and lying and me, as I said, don't mix well at all.

I learned though that even discussing who you are inside, in various forms, may be appealing but in the real world, the truth comes out.....



Life at any age is still a learning curb is it not.....