Thread: Not over it. . . After 2 years.

I have wasted 2 years of my life in a similar way. You have to accept you loss and move on otherwise you will miss out on an even better guy!!!!!!!!!!

But to get a new guy you need to dump the baggage. You may not dump it all but you need to get get it down from a 5 piece Louis Vuitton luggage set to a prada purse

This is what I suggest you do:

Taken a more proactive approach to dating = match.com or similar. If you are 18-20 ish and preffer older guys this is excellent, still good for guys your own age, just more competition. You will have to percervire as for every prince there are at least ten frogs.

Widen you circle of friends this will give you new perspectives and new people to meet.

Write yourself a list of what you want do next year avoid putting on it things like: get a boy friend, get laid etc. these are not wholly in you control and will come naturally.

This is some of my list Acheive 16 points before Dec 2010

3 points for 40 Gym visits
3 points for going on a part time college course
1 point make my room nice
5 points go on a big trip
1 point per £1k save £4k,£5k,£7k
5 points +2" Chest to waist size
5 points buy a home
1 point ride my motorbike over a car
1 point go sea kayaking
5 points migrate


etc.

Make you list SMART

S - specific, significant, stretching

M - measurable, meaningful, motivational

A - agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented

R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented

T - time-based, timely, tangible, trackable

As you can see some of my goals work against each other hense the points system.

I have already made a separate page for each task and what I have to do to achieve them. I am already looking forward to knocking a few of these off in the new year.

Your list might not get you a guy but you should enjoy achieving something over the next 12 months

Don't beat yourself up if you can't do something enjoy what you have and what you do achieve.

Enjoy

May be I should put on learn to spell

Thank you all for your responses. Though I do agree with you all there is something missing i forgot to add. Even though we have not been a couple for 2 yrs. we have the same friends and run into each other sometimes, plus the occasional hook up and late nigh visits. I know that what I am doing is wrong but whenever im around him i act like a stupid girl on heat . I get butterflies and cannot stop smiling, he handles me so easily and knows exactly what to do or say to get his way. I should most definatly cut him out of my life correct?

Yes. He's playing you, and that's so not a good thing. He left you for another girl, and two years later he still knows if he comes knocking, you're going to fall into his hands. I doubt he cares for you, or even has any respect for you. Do you really want to continue a harmful relationship with a guy like that?