Super Nervous about my date with a SUPER hot man! HELP!!

**kygirl** · 12-01-2009 11:48 AM

So, I had been chating with this guy, and I didn't expect it to go anywhere really because well, he's gorgeous

He's 32, tall, dark hair, green eyes... I'm smiling all big just thinking about it

We're supposed to go out tomorrow night (he asked me last night). I mean, obviously he thinks I'm cute or he wouldn't ask, but I'm afraid that he's not going to like me. I still have a bit of a "fat girl" complex from when I was younger, and I would never tell him that I think he's too hot for me, but I can't help but be super nervous....

Any suggestions on how to calm down before my date tomorrow night?

I don't want to be a basketcase, but I'm a horrible combo of super giddy and nervous as right now!!

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 12-01-2009 01:11 PM

Yep.. BREATHE

lol, it's exciting, and there will always be nerves.

But, "HE ASKED YOU OUT", so he has seen you, talked to you, found you interesting, attractive or else he wouldn't have asked you out..

Remember.. He's just a bloke, like every other one, chemistry makes you go goo goo gaa gaa

And, you find him HOT, so naturally your dancing around.

Just be yourself sweet, when you get ready put some inspiring music on, you know those "I am woman hear me roar" style. Your HOT... to him... so be confident, have fun and have conversations as well as giggling lol.

Let us know how it goes PLEASE!~~

I Want to know haha.

CW

**kygirl** · 12-01-2009 01:46 PM

Thanks CW! I'll definitely let everyone know how it goes...unless it's horrible, then we'll just pretend it never happened

I know it's crazy to get so on edge, but sometimes I feel like I'm the only person in the world who gets this nervous before dates...or maybe I just hate dating that much! At least after date three or so you start to kind of know someone's personality a bit more

I think I had just convinced myself that he'd never want to date me, so when he actually asked, I was truly shocked.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 12-01-2009 01:50 PM

PFTTTT... When I met some "hot" guy recently I was a bundle of nerves, took me an hour to get ready, change clothes, hair haha... It's natural, makes us feel like a little girl again, then I realised, babe, I'm a good catch, your just a guy, let's go.... and so I did..

You know people see the inner you as well as the outer you, he wants to see the inner you, that's what a date is all about

Why be shocked? You know deep down you have a lot to give

Don't be insecure sweetness, don't say " i have no idea why you asked me out", haha, be confident.. he chose to ask you out...

**kygirl** · 12-01-2009 02:02 PM

Thanks again CW! Sometimes I just need a little pep talk. I know I have a lot to offer someone, it's just getting past my nervousness so I can show someone that

If I can make it past the first 15 minutes, I'm fine, but it's just getting conversation going... Once they do that, they probably wish they could push an off button to shut me back up because I can talk to about anyone if you get me going

I just have to remember that men like confidence... Confidence is sexy... And I have to remember to not oversleep in the morning because we're meeting up right after work

I'll be looking super nice at the office tomorrow

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 12-01-2009 02:06 PM

GO GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!!

You'll be fine

**Futureboy** · 12-01-2009 03:05 PM

To me the most attractive person is one who doesn't know they are, as you put it, HOT. He thinks you're HOT and you don't know it and you think he's HOT and hopefully he does't know it. You're a perfect match.

Remember Looks make you go there and personality makes you stay. Think is he kind, considerate etc. not what does he look like naked

Enjoy the date and remember he's got to earn your trust and respect no matter how hot he is.

Report back

**happy ending** · 12-01-2009 06:35 PM

good luck, i hope it works out well, just be your lovely self, it sounds like you might be hotter than you know. that "fat girl" feeling sticks around doesnt it.

**Mes T** · 12-01-2009 06:42 PM

Hehe. I'm getting giddy just reading your post. But remember, looks don't matter at ALL once you get to know the person. Seriously... after a few dates you won't even notice his hotness, at least not in the same way, if you know what I mean.

Originally Posted by Futureboy

To me the most attractive person is one who doesn't know they are, as you put it, HOT. He thinks you're HOT and you don't know it and you think he's HOT and hopefully he does't know it. You're a perfect match.

Ohhh that's exactly what I think as well!