Thread: Where do I meet the girl of my dreams?

Originally Posted by danceintx

I agree with the ballroom dancing. I am a ballroom instructor, I don't know how it is in the UK, but here our studios are packed full of beautiful, high-class, amazing single women and few men. Not to mention most dancers do have nice bottoms : )

This does seem the most realistic option. I think learning to dance is a useful life skill

Thanks for the advice
Will join in the new year

Originally Posted by LanaBear

What are your current hobbies? Or what are you interested in?

If you are interested in outdoor type things, I know here, if you go to a store like REI, they always have get togethers for people who are interested in doing the same things.

Yatching - for holidaying
Trials and Motorcross - competitions
Snowboarding - going on the 19th Dec I can't wait

Are my main hobbies

There is a similar store called GO Outdoors I'll check!

I am in to anything motorcycles is the only thing I have really stuck with

I sort of half got inviteted on a big snowboard trip next year I'll see if I am really invited

I need to find a local hobby which I can go to dancing or somesort of college course seems to be the answer. As the by product is pretty good

Thanks again

You'll only find the girl of your dreams... in your dreams!

First, throw out the window any pre-conceived notions about who you think you should be with... Everything from how she looks to how she talks to how smart she is to whatever... you'll quickly find a large number of women you've never even noticed will come into view... ironically, you've probably already met tens of women who would have worked perfectly -- but you ruled them out before even saying hello

Next, take inventory of yourself... wardrobe current? hairstyle modern? music you listen to made recently? stuff you watch/read/see fresh? over your past relationships? live in the now? You get my point... no woman finds excitement with a relic of the past...

Lastly, let her find you! It's a numbers game so you need to increase your exposure, while not appearing superficial but rather genuinely interesting & serious about a relationship.

That's my $0.03

Originally Posted by baja

You'll only find the girl of your dreams... in your dreams!

Dang, right!

Originally Posted by baja

First, throw out the window any pre-conceived notions about who you think you should be with... Everything from how she looks to how she talks to how smart she is to whatever... you'll quickly find a large number of women you've never even noticed will come into view... ironically, you've probably already met tens of women who would have worked perfectly -- but you ruled them out before even saying hello

Always wear a smile. Nothing is lost when you smile, you could even brighten up someone's day before it ever gets ruined. Your face will get less wrinkles, and... ladies always love to look at confident guys, so keep smiling (make sure it's true though).

Originally Posted by baja

Next, take inventory of yourself... wardrobe current? hairstyle modern? music you listen to made recently? stuff you watch/read/see fresh? over your past relationships? live in the now? You get my point... no woman finds excitement with a relic of the past...

Relics are preserved in museums. We want new beginnings, new and fresh grounded outlook in life. We want a man who is confident about himself, knows how and when to be driven and when to be laid back. We want a man who is there with us in the NOW, not in his yerterday.

Originally Posted by baja

Lastly, let her find you! It's a numbers game so you need to increase your exposure, while not appearing superficial but rather genuinely interesting & serious about a relationship.

Don't miss any opportunity to meet people of all ages. Who knows, this or that old man or woman has a niece, a daughter, a friend, a friend's daughter, etc...

Network with people with whom you share interests with. If you are the geeky intellectual type, try hanging out in a bookstore. If you are a business type of person and want a career - driven gal, go to business/entrepreneural seminars/trainings - you are learning new skills/concepts, and at the same time meeting people in your interest area. If you are the sporty type, go on a group hiking, rafting, anything...

Be true to yourself, and see what you already enjoy, pursue that for yourself and then when the time is ripe, she'll just come around.

I strongly believe that we meet people not by accident. We meet them for a reason. It is THAT time when we needed them - both positive and negative.

Originally Posted by baja

That's my $0.03

Baja...you raised your rate now? It was just $0.02 before, wasn't it?!

Originally Posted by baja

You'll only find the girl of your dreams... in your dreams!

First, throw out the window any pre-conceived notions about who you think you should be with... Everything from how she looks to how she talks to how smart she is to whatever... you'll quickly find a large number of women you've never even noticed will come into view... ironically, you've probably already met tens of women who would have worked perfectly -- but you ruled them out before even saying hello

The dream thing was only a headline. I wouldn't pay too much attention. I am willing to give most girls a chance. I don't make friends easily and I have only become friends with 3 girls in the last year all with bfs. I quite fancy one but she has a boyfriend. I don't believe in stealing so I am playing a waiting game. However she is well loved up so can't wait for her.

Originally Posted by baja

Next, take inventory of yourself... wardrobe current? hairstyle modern? music you listen to made recently? stuff you watch/read/see fresh? over your past relationships? live in the now? You get my point... no woman finds excitement with a relic of the past...

Wardrobe check; hair check; music check I still go to gigs and buy new music (elbow, band of skulls, arctic monkeys etc.) Read hmm books about the credit crunch and stucy books; past relationship just truth be told Only just. I am not a relic hey I only look 30 (I think). I do tend to go 'safe' with new people I probably need to show more of myself

Originally Posted by baja

Lastly, let her find you! It's a numbers game so you need to increase your exposure, while not appearing superficial but rather genuinely interesting & serious about a relationship.


That's my $0.03

Thanks for the advise

Originally Posted by caterpillar79

Dang, right!




Always wear a smile. Nothing is lost when you smile, you could even brighten up someone's day before it ever gets ruined. Your face will get less wrinkles, and... ladies always love to look at confident guys, so keep smiling (make sure it's true though).

This is an issue I am dealing with. I will publish 'my list soon' I think there is something in this I am very unsettled at the moment. Need to work on this first

Relics are preserved in museums. We want new beginnings, new and fresh grounded outlook in life. We want a man who is confident about himself, knows how and when to be driven and when to be laid back. We want a man who is there with us in the NOW, not in his yerterday.

Will reflect on the NOW thing

driven check; laid back check


Don't miss any opportunity to meet people of all ages. Who knows, this or that old man or woman has a niece, a daughter, a friend, a friend's daughter, etc...

I really dont enjoy meeting people, but ok will start putting 'me' out there not sure how this is going to work in practice mybay start with the college and dancing and work from there

Network with people with whom you share interests with. If you are the geeky intellectual type, try hanging out in a bookstore. If you are a business type of person and want a career - driven gal, go to business/entrepreneural seminars/trainings - you are learning new skills/concepts, and at the same time meeting people in your interest area. If you are the sporty type, go on a group hiking, rafting, anything...

Good suggestions will still start with a college course and some dancing

Be true to yourself, and see what you already enjoy, pursue that for yourself and then when the time is ripe, she'll just come around.

I strongly believe that we meet people not by accident. We meet them for a reason. It is THAT time when we needed them - both positive and negative.

This has had some very good and very bad affects in my life


Baja...you raised your rate now? It was just $0.02 before, wasn't it?!

Thanks for the advice

Right I am going to summerise this in the next few days then post 'My List' as a new thread for comment

Thanks for the advice so far still open for more