Thread: Is this wrong?

GG

I cant help but feel you need to brush up on the way to communicate with people. I feel you come across quite blunt or agressive.

My original post
As a general rule the less physically attractive a women is the nicer they are and the more generous they are (in and out of bed)

Your response
False! When I was 115 pounds and skrawny as heck with bad teeth,no females would talk to me!!!!

Alternative response:
I disagree my experiance is that when I was less attractive (skrawny as heck, bad teeth etc.) than now no women would talk to me.

My response to this:
How do you know this was directly caused by you appearance?


My Original Post:
No women is perfect you need to cut them a break and yourself

Just 'cos someone works in a caferteria and is not in school does not mean they have no ambition are stupid or anything else.
As you know life deals you a hand and you have to play it best you can. What hand was she dealt, you don't know?


Your response:
As a guy who was probably dealth the worst cards in life(I was born severly autistic) and worked REALLY hard to get up to college level, I really feel there are no excuses to not get your butt at least PART TIME in school unless:


-You can't take out loans.

-You aren't capable of going.

-A family member has died

My response:
I know your situation that's why I brought it up. You are playing your hand of cards well be proud

She may have many other reasons.

She sounds too good for you frankly.

Originally Posted by sourpuss

She sounds too good for you frankly.

Ugh, I know I came off as a total douche. However, I am the type of person who is always willing to prove myself daily.




So, what have I learned from this little experience?


-Dating is not like developing a skill set where you can just use tools and work hard to develop yourself.


Humans AREN'T tools. They are equals to me.


-Calm the heck freaking down. Being aggresive could hurt me throughout my lifetime.





Anyway, you will all be glad to know I won't be dating her. It would go againt my newly tuned moral compass.


case closed

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Hun..

The dating site was a good suggestion, yeah there are weirdo's Me knows....

Maybe the girls are "insecure" a tad, and that's why they are on that at "their age", but then that also means there are some "real nice girls", that aren't being given a chance.

You know, you can't have a check list and put those into small boxes then walk out and find her.

And, your too young for marriage.

So quit with your future and start with your present

I'm glad you can see that you don't date someone for your own benefits with none for them, your only going to hurt someone's feelings and bring them down, make them feel they are worthless what for? It's not your nature.

Flirt "nicely" on My-Space, get to "know" the girls... befriend them only for that purpose and see if there is a potential to date.

Dating is about "learning experiences" too you know. Your allowed to get it wrong and your allowed to give it a go too and see where it goes, and your allowed to establish that long term, they're not for you.

22 Year old females "do" have ambitions, but I suspect the ones you are after as I said are more for "marriage" and they are doing degrees, studying, working, volunteering and you'll never see them. And I suspect they are "older" than 22.

So, for now, just concentrate on the NOW... I have no idea how to convince you to just be you and see the beauty in people, not the "materialist" side. I mean that in the nicest way. You can tell a lazy person who doesn't want anything but babies and you work, gold diggers. But, you know? A girl who is respectful of herself and her future life, also respects two incomes are better than one, so don't judge their "job" description, they may become management material or own their own place one day from what they are learning.

They may love hospitality, and not work in a cafeteria for any other reason than that they are people persons.. Which could as I said, lead them into owning their own Cafe and make good income.

I started as a Clerk/Receptionist and went pfttt, boring, so I became a waitress. If you were around then you would have said pfttt waitress... Yet, I went onto management for 17 years, 30 staff, and I'm onto my third business....

Point I am trying to make is when you talk to a person, you will establish if they have drive in life.

Ask yourself, if you are after an ambitious person in life for money? Or, an ambitious person in life to match your own intelligence for communication purposes, discussions, future paths, etc.

CW

Meh, I agree with this post. I do look at things from a materialistic perspective. What happens when the female gets older.Will I break up with her then? if I was going to take that additude, might as well get a blow up doll and put a ring on it because it sure as heck seems like that was the type of person I was looking for before:


A hot blond of little substance.

You know what though? This post has helped me to mature. I didn't realize that the qaulities of a person ARE more important.

Not all females look smoking hot like you do up until like 65-70!!!!


Then what? After she is like 70 am I still have to listen to her!!!!!!!!Is she going to take care of my parents when I they are older? No, she will be too busy "looking pretty"



Cliffs:

- I just realized I was a darwinistic,materialistic jerkwad and have changed that additude.

As a guy who was probably dealth the worst cards in life(I was born severly autistic) and worked REALLY hard to get up to college level, I really feel there are no excuses to not get your butt at least PART TIME in school unless:


-You can't take out loans.

-You aren't capable of going.

-A family member has died

School is not the beginning and end of life. Work is not the beginning and end of life. I can name you some people who have both and are extremely unhappy and horrible to be around. I can name some that have neither. They grow their own food and make just enough cash to pay an electric bill so they can run their well pump and not freeze in winter. They are very intelligent (their younger siblings gave my sister a run for honor student in highschool and she's finishing her engineering degree this spring) and happy along with some of the best people to be around. Someone's ambition and desires in life may not lie with a job or schooling. Personally I'd rather be training horses, selling eggs from chickens and produce from my garden, and pursuing the intellectual interests I want without paying a college instructor to do a much worse job as well having to take classes I don't have an interest in. However I don't have enough ambition and work ethic to raise enough animals or produce to make a living and I like my expensive high speed internet and eating out so I ended up going to college for a computer programming degree. It actually takes the least effort of most any degree since I've always been very good at things like math and so horrible at english classes, writing papers, or communicating with people that a psychiatrist diagnosed me autstic. My husband makes $44,000 a year and is going back to graduate school and he's probably one of the laziest least ambition people I've met. Which is why we get along so well.