Thread: Is this wrong?

YES....only because she KNOWS where you work! Imagine if she falls for you and you break it off she could become a stalker! Even though she works in the caf that means you would have to change your eating habits etc! I understand you want to gain experience but honestly you DONT need it. Just being you is good enough. When the time is right and the person is right it will come naturally by just being you....no practice needed

That to me is not okay.Dating someone,needs to benefit the both of you.And if your plans are just to use her for dating experience,that's not right.

You have nothing in common,you think she is 'ugly',and you can't even keep an innocent conversation because you say she sucks to talk to.I am behind on dating for my age,but that doesn't mean I'm going to grab just any guy out there just so I can say I have more dating experience.

Find someone whom you are compatible with ghost.You are hard enough on women as it is when it comes to judgemental issues.You'll find a girl,but it will take time.Patience,that's all I can say.

Also can I say that outward appreances mean nothing! You don't know her to judge what ambition she has and you have not witnessed her outside of that environment to make a correct assesment of her communication skills. She could be afraid to talk to you at work because maybe it's against policy.
Also let me say that at work I do NOT look the way I do outside of work. I come to work to work. Granted I may have on a 3piece one day and sweats the next depending on my shift and I work for a major corp. However I stick with my previous advice and do not believe you should date anyone associated with work.

Originally Posted by GentlemanGhost

So, as most of you know, I am WAY behind in dating for my age(22).

There is this girl at work who has an intrest in me that I would not date long term because:


-She is 28 and works in a cafeteria(no abition). Not in school either.
Hey, I am working my butt off to develop a career. My spouse better be too!
-She sucks to talk to.
-She strikes me as messy.
-I am semi repulsed by her. Remember, I said I would consider any girl as long as I found her ok to attractive.

So, I am asking you guys if it would be morally right to date her for just like a month to get dating experience....then break it off with her claiming that the age gap is too big and that it wouldn't work out(innocent break up).

(ladies please don't give me a hard time for this post)

GG

I think you can answer this question for yourself

Don't judge the number of girlfriends you have or have not had as a success factor

Everyone single has failed thus far to 'meet someone perfect'

Going out with someone you are 'semi repulsed by' is not honest to her or you. I think you need to allow yourself to date someone who you consider is less than perfect, they might just suprise you.

Going out with someone is the bit where you find out if your compatible long term

Chris Martin did not loose his virginity until he was 24, he's married to Gwenth Paltrow. Your probably ahead of him on the dating scene at 22.

As a general rule the less physically attractive a women is the nicer they are and the more generous they are (in and out of bed)

No women is perfect you need to cut them a break and yourself

Just 'cos someone works in a caferteria and is not in school does not mean they have no ambition are stupid or anything else.

As you know life deals you a hand and you have to play it best you can. What hand was she dealt, you don't know?

We all judge people unfairly and have prejudious. We just need to catch ourselves and take a step back for a second.

I think you're just getting a bit desperate, women can smell it a mile off. Ever noticed how when you go out with someone women seem attracted to you. 'Cos you're relaxed in their presence.

Try Match.com or similar go on a few dates practice dating and work your way from there.

Originally Posted by Ahryin

Also let me say that at work I do NOT look the way I do outside of work.

Truest thing ever

I share with a very hot vet nurse she looks nothing special in her uniform

I used to live with a copper she was way hot. In her uniform she looked like a man

Used to play chess at Uni with a mate. I always used to talk to his Cali house mate when I went round she was really nice but wierd looking in her slouchy clothes. Bam!!!! saw her dressed up, nearly fell over my tongue and she knew it. PS she was a cheerleader. And no I didn't date her 'cos, I'm an idiot

Very well put,Futureboy!

It is absolutely wrong, duh. How would you feel if some girl you found increddibly attractive and amazing asked you out, even though in her head she is semi-repulsed by you, considering you to be a total loser... and she is doing so just have a ride places for a month while her car was in the shop.

Seriously, ghost , ugh. Well at least you know somewhere deep down how wrong it is or you wouldn't be asking here so there is a sign of hope there.

Using people is NEVER okay. Never. You want to date her for experience than you need to clue her into that. Hey, I am seriously not into anything serious with you... but would like to date you just so I get better at dating girls I'm not semi-repulsed by. Run that by her... see how it flies.

No. Don't do that. But don't play with peoples feelings either. You don't want yours played with , don't play with others.

Absolutely wrong. First and foremost, you'd be using her. Second, you wouldn't be getting any experience. How would you transfer the 'lessons' from dating someone you don't like to dating someone you do like? You're not learning to drive a car, you're learning to interact with women on a deeper level. Faking interest isn't part of that learning experience.