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In my opinion, that's what 'dating' is.
dating more than one person?
Ok, just out of curiosity, what is your opinion on dating more than one person at the same time? That is of course, if it is okay with everyone involved. I don't mean sneaking around. My opinion is, if it's ok with everyone involved, I don't see a problem with it, as long as the person knows that at some point they would have to make a decision, when it's time to settle down and make a commitment. Thoughts?
How can you see where you're going if you spend your whole life looking over your shoulder? –Naughty Ninja
In my opinion, that's what 'dating' is.
I agree w/ sourpuss! Once you get past the adolescent mind-set that dating is - finding someone you like and then "going steady" right away - you realize that dating is really just going on dates and meeting new people who could potentially become your SO!
There's no commitment in dating! Its just a way for people to get to know each other, build a friendship/companionship/chemistry... but the commitment is quite a ways away yet. Once you've decided that you really like someone after dating them a while, then the idea of exclusivity between a couple of "daters" can start being discussed.
Anything before that is just a "Getting to know you" exercise, not an obligation to get to know them and ONLY them...
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Finding the right person is really a numbers game plus some luck. The more you put yourself out there, the more people you meet, of those you find that you like and date, the better your chances of finding a decent match. It's not that only dating one person at a time is a bad thing, it will just that your search will take a lot longer...
Personally dating many people at the same time is not my thing. You end up muddling them up who went back packing, which one told you about plans to go to the mountains, which told you the joke about a lobster etc.
Personally I agree it is a numbers game but you need to give yourself a quality dating experiance to move from dating to something more or you end up going on 100s on dates.
I dont tend to date multiples, I've watched too many teen dramas to know you end up on two dates in the same restaurants on the same night
Rule of thumb three dates or throw them back or put them in the keep net and get you bait off the hook, so to speak
Happy dating
Fb
Well, I don't see why not, as long as you aren't leading anyone on to think you are exclusive. I don't think dating more than 2 at a time is a good idea. I think that's asking for drama, by either sending the wrong text to the wrong one or getting names mixed up or whatever. But dating 2 I think would be easy, and nothing wrong with it at all.
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” - William Arthur Ward
Casual dating to get to know people really makes sense. I don't think throwing sex into that mix would work well for me but have known people who do and handle it fine.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
I'm leaning toward FutureBoy's view... I can see how very, very casual dating (like see a guy once, maybe twice, whoops where did he run off to?) of multiple people is fine. But then sometimes people in that situation get a little more serious with all parties involved, then a little more, then a little more... until finally there's a woman who thinks she's in love with two men at the same time and oh they're both great, dear me how do I choose...
Annoys me a bit.
Took the words right out of my mouth. Dating, hanging out, getting to know eachother is fine with different people. The second it gets physical, it needs to become exclusive in my opinion, even if physical just means making out.Originally Posted by WildChild
Dating is great! Dating multiple people is even better!
I'll have a date for Friday with one guy, Saturday with another, and Sunday with another! I don't tell them about each other if they don't ask. If a guy asks me if I'm seeing other people, I'm truthful. But, if they never ask, I never tell
As far as being physical is concerned, I am never sexually active with more than one person at a time. And when the relationship is not exclusive, before we "get it on" I always ask to see if HE'S seeing anyone else who he is physical with. I'm not trying to get sick cuz he's screwing someone nasty. haha
I like dating around with guys because you can have a lot of fun, and not mess it up with a relationship. All my ex BFs are loser jerks who I never talk to. All my ex daters are great guys who I still have good friendships with.
Overall, I guess it's a personal choice. But I love it!
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