Thread: How should i act on the first date?

Originally Posted by amyjo

im excited. but how should i act on the date. bc i need to continue to convey the fact that i like him. but how.

You're going on a date with him. If that doesn't convey "I like you" he's thicker than a castle wall.

*Smile, giggle, and flip hair when he's being charming and intelligent.

*Cross your arms and show him your poker face when he's being a jerk (teenage boys become jerks quickly and several times a day. If they were adults they'd all be Bi-polar).

This is technically called 'operant conditioning' but women have been brainwashing men with it for several millenia.

Good conversation topics:
*Pop music (most teens like something played on the radio today)
*Movies you like from the last 3 years.
*What do you like to watch on TV?
*Mutual athletic/artistic/scholastic interests?
*Countries you'd like to visit

Then keep tabs on him. How does he treat people he isn't dating? Any disgusting habits? Did he steal his sneakers from a drifter's corpse?

Usually after 2 or 3 dates you know enough about somebody to tell if they're somebody you actually want a relationship with, or just somebody who looks cute but you have no connection with.

Originally Posted by sourpuss

Just be yourself.

Most important first date advice ever

A lot of people get so caught up in making a great first impression they forget that the person their dating typically wants to know them, not some impressive persona created for a first date.

Guys are huge offenders in this regard from what i've seen, and by the third our fourth date when their actual selves start to show up it can be quite jarring to the lady their with.

I dont agree with sinister urge. your too new dating to socially condition a man. He may this this is controlling

Be yourself, smile, look him in the eye, not too much

A double date is difficult to be intermate. Just touch him leg or arm in the cinema and he'll probably take the que to hand your heand or touch you on the leg or arm. If it feels like a big gap between you when it's only an inch sihgs are nt good you need to touch

First dates generally it is what is not said is more important if it is right it will happen

just enjoy yourself and remeber he's probably nervous or anxietous too. Not that he will admit it

Fb

you are an amazing young woman. I'd say "just be you", but there's no "just" about you.

be who you are. if he's at all sharp he'll see how great you are!

Originally Posted by Futureboy

I dont agree with sinister urge. your too new dating to socially condition a man. He may this this is controlling

Teenagers are the ones most in need of conditioning :P

And I'm not suggesting you go Manchurian Candidate on him and program him to kill somebody every time he opens a deck of cards with five queens in it. The boy has to learn dating etiquette and he is (sub)consciously hoping to win your approval. The poker-face/smile routine is simple behaviorism.

...and i think its a "date". his sister thinks its a date and so do i, so im assuming when she talked to him bout the idea...he got the point too. but what if he didnt. his sis is calling us a couple. and was like: maybe i can find another couple to come too. so she is considering us to be a couple but does he?? i mean were not technically a couple but shes thinking of it as a date for us....and so do i. so if we think that, wouldnt he?? im not sure what he thinks...obviously. lol