Am 23 and have never dated, is it too late?!

**Plain_Jane** · 02-15-2010 07:15 PM

I am 23 and have never been asked on a date, or even had my first kiss. In highschool I was kinda a dork and never got any male attention but I thought that would change once I got to University ... it didn't. Now I am working in a small company and do not have a lot of opportuinty to meet guys, even if I did I know longer have any confidence.
How do I get over this hurtle. I have been preping myself to live alone, but deep down don't want to be lonely forever. What can I do to meet nice guys?!

**ltsang** · 02-15-2010 07:43 PM

I'm a guy who is also Asian. I didn't get a girlfriend until I was 23. Then she and I got started to take and she is also a year younger than me. When we started to date we sleep in separate rooms. Then as of today my wife and I got married and I slept with together.

Also during my high school year I played video games all the time. My life was video games. So my life is so boring. I didn't have any friends either. I only have 2 friends through out the whole year. We still keep in touch on msn and facebook.

**Disco** · 02-15-2010 09:39 PM

It's not too late.
Just try to go out more or if you trust the internet talk to men on some site. Just talking to men like that can give you a bit more confidence.

I know how you're feeling though, I was a late starter myself. Don't let it get to you, just go out and enjoy yourself. Do whatever it takes to meet people. Don't think about dating anyone, just meet people and get confident and happy, men will notice you then.

**Mes T** · 02-15-2010 09:44 PM

Have you considered online dating, Jane? I've never done so myself, but some of my friends have and have had great results. In fact, a couple of my friends made profiles just for giggles and ended up meeting the loves of their lives!

Anyway, you are very young, so don't feel rushed or like you've missed out or anything like that. And remember, confidence is key!

**rcoreyus** · 02-15-2010 09:55 PM

Try to spend time with men - not on dates, but just doing fun things. Enjoy yourself and take off the pressure of trying to find a date. Find hobbies, sports, etc that give you a chance to meet people.

**GlitterAndStuds** · 02-16-2010 05:01 AM

I agree with the online dating idea.... Actually, it doesn't even have to be "dating" per se, just chatting with guys and getting a feel for that. Then you'll be able to use that to strike up a conversation with a guy you see out somewhere.

Are there any women your age that you work with, or anything like that? Maybe you can try making some friends there to go out with, then you can meet guys that way as well. Either way, don't put to much pressure on yourself and don't make any outing all about meeting a guy. 23 is still very young, you have a lot of time to find a good guy. Just have fun while you're doing it.

**prawnprincess** · 02-16-2010 06:39 AM

I got a late start to dating, too. Just think: we've avoided a lot of the emotional baggage of the many girls who dated seriously very young and already had a list of exes by 23. I'm 26 and am on my third boyfriend. What I'm learning is that it's best not to force anything. If you follow your interests you will meet someone special. I know it's worrysome, but just try to enjoy yourself and take it slow and things will develop.

**KMonte85** · 02-16-2010 08:25 AM

23 isn't too late to start dating. As long as you're single and breathing, it is never too late to go out and meet people, mingle, date!

I think the online dating thing might be good for you if you're in an area where meeting new people in person could be tough.

But you may also want to start looking into community organizations that you could find some nice men to chat with and perhaps date down the line if you like each other... gyms, hobby clubs, church, book clubs, etc.

But you definitely should work on your confidence level! Some guys like shy girls, and will do all the work to make a connection... but you will lose out on a lot of opportunities if you don't take that risk and put yourself out there. Rejection sucks, but if you don't try, you never get to experience the good stuff when things do work out. Maybe as you get more comfortable being out and meeting new people, your level of confidence will increase!

**sperosi** · 02-16-2010 01:21 PM

Originally Posted by Plain_Jane

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What can I do to meet nice guys?!

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well if you post a few more times, Tex will probably start flirting with you...

especially if you mention anything about pickup trucks

**kygirl** · 02-16-2010 01:40 PM

Originally Posted by Plain_Jane

I am 23 and have never been asked on a date, or even had my first kiss. In highschool I was kinda a dork and never got any male attention but I thought that would change once I got to University ... it didn't. Now I am working in a small company and do not have a lot of opportuinty to meet guys, even if I did I know longer have any confidence.
How do I get over this hurtle. I have been preping myself to live alone, but deep down don't want to be lonely forever. What can I do to meet nice guys?!

I think online dating is a good way to get used to chatting with people. Also, maybe you could do a new class or hobby? Like, if you like to cook, a place where i am from has a singles cooking class especially to meet people OR you can also take some of their other regular programs to maybe meet some new individuals. I'd just be open to the idea of meeting someone, be a bit more flirty and outgoing and see what happens. I don't think 23 is too old at all. On the plus side, you definitely have a better idea of what things you like and don't like which should benefit you

Good luck and have fun!! There are all kinds of options out there, so just try what works for you