So, I got yet ANOTHER girls phone number......

**GentlemanGhost** · 02-22-2010 09:38 PM

I am going to call her up. Met her in physics class.

Here is what I was thinking:

You know, you seem like an intresting person. Therefore, I was wondering if you wanted to meet up sometime at Starbucks.....

Give me some more tips for the first phone call! I am putting to practice the personaility tips you guys gave me....

-Ask her about her
-Be considerate of her
-It's all about her

-If it has to do with you(like a hobby), make sure it relates to her somehow

How long should the first phone call be IF she accepts?

**stressed** · 02-22-2010 09:45 PM

Not too long, or she might take it as if you're drooling, even if you are not (some women hate long phone calls). You can ask about her day and keep the 'serious' questions for Startbucks.

Just a thought

**Mes T** · 02-22-2010 10:22 PM

I'd skip the first bit about her being interesting and meeting up sometime. IMO more to the point would be nice: "Hey what's up. I'm not doing much... Wanna get some coffee at Starbucks in a bit?"

Good luck and keep us posted!!

**stressed** · 02-22-2010 10:24 PM

Skip the "therefore" word too, it sounds overly calculated

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-23-2010 12:38 AM

If your going to make a date, make the date...

Never, have opened ended questions, confidence remember

Hi, it's "ghost writer," ... (smiley voice)

"Hi",

"Seems to me your tastes, might include, white, a little sweet and tall, with good conversation, laughter and a date, so how about therefore, letting me buy you a coffee, this week..."

haha. sorry, but it's confident.

Work out the date, and say, look forward to it, see you then... have a great few days (day) what ever...

CW

**Beautiful Disaster** · 02-23-2010 05:46 AM

Be you.

If YOU are someone who is romantic, sweet, (i.e. ALL about her as you said) then be that. But if you are someone who by nature does not lean in that direction other than to "secure the catch", then please.....don't "woo" her. Don't fill her mind when how things "could be" and give her some false sense of hope that she's found "the one". Nothing worse than a guy who pretends to be what he thinks you want, so he can get you, then he gets you and POOF....he miraculously evolves into "This is who I am, take it or leave it".

You want her? Or at least you want a shot at it...... so save yourself and the girl ALOT of time. Don't try to read her and determine what she'll like based on who you think she is. Be yourself, true down to your core and expect the same......and if she likes that, then GREAT. If she doesn't, better not to waste time huh?

Just be yourself.

**OhThereYouAre** · 02-23-2010 06:30 AM

Skip all the B.S. The less fluff the better. Girls are just like guys. Like you want to meet girls...they want to meet guys.

Seriously, do you really want to meet her for coffee?

Tell her what's really on your mind.

Ask her to meet you for drinks.

"Hey I was planning on heading to so and so place on friday night to grab a drink....wanna go with me/meet me there?"

Play some darts, shoot some pool. Let her win if she's terrible.

Last thing....she's not a prize...she's a woman just like all the other women you are going to go out with this year. Put her on a pedestal and you'll strike out real quick.

No politics, no money talk, no psychology or sociology....and don't drink too much.

Talk about school and work your family- and stay positive. Ask her questions that you are truly concerned about. Where's she from...why'd she choose your school, where does she work...what's she trying to do in life.....

This should be fun...not stressful...

Good luck.

**Little** · 02-23-2010 06:43 AM

Just be you. If you put up a big wall and paint the picture of some other guy's actions and feelings on it, and you win with it ... where will you be in a few months' time?

**WildChild** · 02-23-2010 06:51 AM

You could always get together to study or review material and have a bite to eat after.

**kygirl** · 02-23-2010 07:35 AM

Originally Posted by GentlemanGhost

I am going to call her up. Met her in physics class.

Here is what I was thinking:

You know, you seem like an intresting person. Therefore, I was wondering if you wanted to meet up sometime at Starbucks.....

Give me some more tips for the first phone call! I am putting to practice the personaility tips you guys gave me....

-Ask her about her
-Be considerate of her
-It's all about her

-If it has to do with you(like a hobby), make sure it relates to her somehow

How long should the first phone call be IF she accepts?

I'm going to agree with everyone else...

Don't psych yourself out. Keep the call short and simple. I like OTYA's idea of asking her out for drinks. Sound confident, but sincere.

Just remember, she is just a person, just like you

Don't overthink it. If she likes you, she'll probably be excited that you called and probably a bit nervous just like you.