Forum:

Results 1 to 8 of 8

Thread: frequency of phone calls

  1. #1
    Banned from WH Array
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Posts
    32

    Default frequency of phone calls

    Become a member to remove this ad.
    How often should I call my boyfriend? I've been dating him for about 2 months now. He calls me everyday. I've been calling him like once every 3 days. Do guys like to be called everyday?

  2. #2
    Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Array Explorer44's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Florida - I can watch the shuttle launch!
    Posts
    802

    Default

    When I was dating my former SO, he would call every night at 9pm - his cell rates were free at that time, my daughter was in bed, and we could talk for hours!

    I think it's great that he calls you daily, and I doubt he'd mind if you called more frequently. It probably depends more on the timing of the calls tho. I know I can't talk at work for more than a minute, and I'm not really in my personal mindset there anyway.

    Why not just ask him? After all, he'll be calling soon
    C'mon girls - let's have some FUN!

  3. #3
    WH Super Moderator Array caterpillar79's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    Location
    RedNeck Country, USA
    Posts
    4,106
    Blog Entries
    68

    Default

    Some guys don't like to be called everyday as per experience. That being said, if he calls more often, you should be thankful. Don't worry about the frequency of your calls. what matters is the quality of conversation you have during those times.

    I would say, let him call you and just call him as you used to. The more he misses your voice, the better. The more he initiates things, the better you'll know he is really really in to you.

    In your stage, let him do the "hunting".
    What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility. - Leo Tolstoy

    The clearest explanation for failure of any marriage is that two people are incompatible; that is, one is male and the other female. - Anna Quindlen

    Register! | Rules/FAQ |Contact Mod| Contact Admin

  4. #4
    Banned from WH Array
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Posts
    32

    Default

    Thank you. He seems like he's really into me. He bought me flowers for Valentine's day & he's taking me out to see a movie this coming weekend.

  5. #5
    WH Super Moderator Array Hopeless Dork's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    United States
    Posts
    4,232

    Default

    I'd say call him whenever you have something to say. If you're calling just to call... I'd limit that, for sure... as it can come off as clingy , needy, and even annoying/boring if its just hi. and silence type call.

    If you have a question, if you want to make plans, if you thought about something you want to share with him, have something funny or interesting on your mind... call to your hearts content as long as its not while he's at work or some hobbie activity or when you know he's sleeping.

    You can gauge his reactions. Is he laughing , uh huh'ing, engaging in conversation, does he sound happy to hear from you? Does he ask you things too? Are his answers abrupt and to the point ? Is he quick to make an excuse to get off the phone?

    If you get the vibe from him that he is not wanting to talk on the phone, pull back a bit and don't call him EVERYtime you have something to say, but every 3rd time you have something to say

    Basically I think if your in a relationship, and you like the person you are with and they like you. Its nice to talk to them, you like to hear from them, and they like to hear from you.

    But do call him in the way you'd call any friend and by that I mean, call when you have something to talk about and skip it if you don't.
    Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

  6. #6
    TEAM ADMIN Array CHANDLERS WISH's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    Posts
    19,973
    Blog Entries
    13

    Default

    Mary, how often do you see him?

    Seems like you don't get together very often during the week.

    I don't believe it should be a one way street, but if he's calling you everyday, then he's serious.

    It should be a case of doing what you "feel" like... You call because you want to call.

    A text message goodnight/goodmorning is also very welcoming in a new relationship, especially if you've worked out a nickname, or can add something warming, or funny, or sexy without being forward..

    CW
    Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
    It doesn't happen over night
    if truth were to be told.

    Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
    you must believe!

  7. #7
    Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Array ocularone's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Virginia
    Posts
    206

    Default

    i will add from a guys perspective. If i were into you enough to call you everyday and you were only calling me every 3+ days i would be a tiny bit hurt and start to wonder if you are even into me..

    just thought you should know
    "I met in the street a very poor young man who was in love. His hat was old, his coat worn, his cloak was out at the elbows, the water passed through his shoes, - and the stars through his soul."- Victor Hugo

  8. #8
    Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Array Joey's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    On my bed
    Posts
    481

    Default

    I think it really depends on the person you are calling. For instance, me and my boyfriend will ring each other proably 2-3 times a week, but we text every day. My brother and his girfriend phone each other every day and are on the phone till the early hours of the morning - and my sister and her boyfriend will only text each other - never phone, as they like to save their convos for face to face.

    I think phoning whenever you want is fine - but YOU will know if you are being to clingy. Especially if you are the one in the relationship always doing the phoning.
    "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - Chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming WOO-HOO what a ride!!"
    "I dream about being with you forever." - Twilight

Similar Threads

  1. Frequency & Ability
    By Nerd in forum Sex
    Replies: 22
    Last Post: 05-23-2008, 05:31 AM
  2. Inclusive mobile calls
    By Abrahan in forum General
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 08-31-2007, 12:15 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  

Beauty & Style | Fitness & Nutrition | Family & Relationships | Sex & Sexual Health | Physical & Mental Health | Girl Talk | Forum Home
Home | Health Library | Contact | Terms Of Service
© Womens-Health.com 2011+