Broke up with bf, now have real issues

**danceintx** · 03-15-2010 08:58 AM

So I broke it off with my bf this past weekend, and he got really upset. Now he has told me he has been reading my posts on this website. This really schocked me and I feel like it is an invasion of my privacy, He thinks I am invading his privacy by posting about him on here. He also threatened that if I post about him on here anymore he will retaliate by posting about me. Now I guess I am going to have to change my username or just not post here anymore. This sucks! Once again I trusted someone just to have them take advantage.

**Fallen1** · 03-15-2010 09:03 AM

How is it an invasion of his privacy? It's all anonymous. We wouldn't know him if we were to walk right past him.

I'm sorry that you have been presented with this problem.

**WildChild** · 03-15-2010 09:17 AM

For that matter we wouldn't know you if you were standing at our doors. What deep dark secrets do you think he is going to reveal?
If he does come on here and doesn't follow the rules, he'll get the same treatment anyone else would. We all have our weak spots, his making threats like this shows up his more than yours.

**danceintx** · 03-15-2010 09:20 AM

That's what I said too, but he won't see it any other way. Just excuses to rationalize his bad behavior. I had no idea he would act like this. It's got me so stressed out. He also accused me of having the hots for my coworker who is 10 years younger and all kinds of stuff. Just goes to show you really don't know how someone really is until you break up with them.

**WildChild** · 03-15-2010 09:21 AM

Unless you robbed the bank or molest children and small animals, I wouldn't worry about it.

**danceintx** · 03-15-2010 09:22 AM

And the only reason he even knew about the forum or me posting is cause I told him about it, and checked it while he was here, so I guess he made note of the name of the forum and what my username was somehow. I really did trust him more than this.

**Fallen1** · 03-15-2010 09:24 AM

We all are guilty of saying things out of hurt and anger. Give it some time, things should "calm" down.

**pretzel** · 03-15-2010 09:39 AM

I agree that it's more talk than action.

Also, I'm pretty confident it's against forum rules to call out other posters, no matter how annonymous it is.

**WildChild** · 03-15-2010 10:00 AM

Well given that the mods can use their judgement - and we often discuss how to deal with some things. It wouldn't be allowed.

**kygirl** · 03-15-2010 10:28 AM

Sorry Dance... just agreeing with everyone else. If he does say something, he'll be banned. And honestly, like everyone else said, we would have no idea who he is from anyone so it's not like you were betraying his privacy here anymore than you would talking with your girlfriends at home in my opinion. This is honestly probably even better because we don't know him so he doesn't have to worry about us spreading things about him at all.

Again, sorry!! I'd stand my ground if I were you.