Is it really that hard to let someone go?

**xJanex** · 03-19-2010 03:28 AM

ok so in my past threads i have mentioned that this amazing guy whos a student dr has been in my life.
he will be moving a few hours away from me in a couple of months.
He also has blown me off meeting up with him a couple of times (1 where he thought i was going out anyway.. so thats fine.. 2: he said he would text me in the day to let me know if he can meet up and i didnt hear from him till half nine at night).
Also I didnt hear from him in a whole week beucase "his phone broke" and he had to order another one (which i believe him) so we didnt see another that week either..

Last night he texted me asking how i am and what have i been up too?
I asked how he was and he said he was very stressed an worried about his final exams which is understandable I asked if we could chat he said ill call you tomorrow..
My question is.
What shall I do about this??
I feel that he is not intrested in me but hes stringing me along. Has anyone had this happen to them and if they have what did you do?

**Beautiful Disaster** · 03-19-2010 06:07 AM

If you feel that you are being strung along, then you most likely are. The bottom line is sending you a random text now and then is NOT an effort. And that's the only effort he's willing to make now, think about what an actual relationship would be like! People usually put their best foot forward when dating. He may be busy, he may be long distance, but I can't see where he's really making any effort to do anything but keep you on the string "in case" he's in your area and wants a hook up.

**WildChild** · 03-19-2010 07:13 AM

He's studying, he's probably not in relationship mode right now. Can you just keep it light? An occasional date? Chat now and then? It won't hurt anything or obligate either of you.

**Pinkyshot** · 03-19-2010 11:15 AM

I think you talk to him about it..if he's not really in to having a relationship right now than he needs to tell you so you both can move on.

**Jingleboots** · 03-19-2010 04:54 PM

Yes, he's stringing you along, and no, his phone did not break. You can believe him if you want to, but if my phone broke and I wanted to talk to someone (for a week???) I would borrow a friend's phone and call. Letting go might "sting" a little, just think of the women that have been married for years and have to "let go". You'll be fine, and find someone worthy of you, he is NOT interested. When a guy is interested, OMG...you will know. Hold your head up, and don't answer his calls, and DON'T call him! Move on Girl. Once you do this you will feel empowered because you will have done something healthy for YOU and you know it's the right thing. Don't waste any more precious time.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-20-2010 02:44 PM

Always follow your gut feeling..

He keeps making excuses in my books.

Anyone who asks what you've been up to, that hasn't bothered to call you, talk to you, usually just wants to make sure your still there.

CW

**xJanex** · 03-23-2010 01:26 AM

I think it has come to the point now where I just need to think of him as a friend and move on.. I understand that he is busy with his final year and graduates to be a dr but i just dont understand why he cant spare a couple of hours to see me or whatnot you know? i dont think he has made much of a effort, if i talk to him about this he will prob avoid the topic as he doesnt seem to like confrontation or think im a psycho... i dont get how he doesnt talk to me for a couple of days then messages me out of the blue!?
Shall i reply to that or just ignore it?! because most times i seem to message him he doesnt reply!? what a confusing issue..

**sperosi** · 03-23-2010 03:24 AM

yes. it is really that hard if you cared about them. it is not hard if you didnt.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 03-23-2010 05:21 AM

So he messages you out of the blue and then doesn't text you back at times when you respond? Yet another sign, another hint "He's just NOT that into you". That's the cold hard truth in my opinion. Wants you on the string, just in case, but not for a relationship. You want more than that, if you didn't you wouldn't be worrying over someone who is so blatantly not making any effort. Seriously hun, he's just not that into you. You're wasting heart and soul on him when you could be giving that to someone that actually wants and deserves it.

Cut your loses, break the ties.......and move on my friend.

**sperosi** · 03-24-2010 03:45 PM

its easy to see what needs to be done when it is someone else involved. i am going to give you the same advice that i should be following myself...

cut the rope, or you'll end up drowning!