Thread: Single For Too Long

When I was your age, I'd never had a girlfreind. I finally got one and was so happy but she mistreated me and dumped me twice! About 6 months later, I started to like a freind of mine, and we chatted online for several months, but finally came to the conclusion we wouldn't happen. About 2 years later we dated, for four months and I was the happiest man alive. I love(d) that girl with all my heart, and as everyone here knows, I am moving on, but atm I feel great, but there is still a of a lot lurking inside me. She had lost love for me, and is in love now with a new guy.

I was single for three years before her, and have been for 6 weeks now. I desperatley want a new girlfreind, someone to love, cherish, take out, cuddle up to and make me happy.

I'm 19, 20 this year, and when I was 16 I wanted a girlfreind, for love, attention of course some fun, afterall I am male, but also someone to just adore. Back then I too was at college, but now, at 19, I'm at uni, am employed, pay income tax, national insurance, phonebills, car insurance, car tax, car bills, and have a of a lot more responsibilites than I did three/four years ago. I want a girl to make me happy, because to me love is so important.

You will find someone soon, trust me. I am looking too. Ive never been good with ladies, I'm a little overweight, have hair down to my mid back, a scruffy beard and I wear what I like, driving a beaten up 32 year old truck, but thats me! Thats my life, and screw anyone else, I will let someone who loves me for who I am come to me.

I've been in a similar situation. My only advice would be not to give up, especially on love. it's an amazing thing, it rarely comes when you're looking for it, but when you least expect it...there it is

If you're 16, and you've been single for 4-5 years, that's a good thing because you really that would mean you weren't dating anyone when you were 11 or 12. I didn't get to start actually going on dates until I was 16. So at that point, one could have legtimitely said I'd been single for 16 years. I think society is teaching our children that they should be in gf/bf relationships at WAY too young an age.

Sure...you feel like no ones interested in you now, but you'll very soon find out there's a BIG world out there full of people who will be interested in you. Don't determine your self worth based on whether or not you have a bf or gf. Those types of relationship will happen in time. Promise.

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

If you're 16, and you've been single for 4-5 years, that's a good thing because you really that would mean you weren't dating anyone when you were 11 or 12.

It's like you read my mind..my thoughts EXACTLY

Those relationships at 11-12 don't even count. Unless the two of you were making out frequently or intimate with eachother alot, it still means you haven't even had one yet.

I never had a girlfriend in High School, not because I was a loser but because a lot of girls didn't interest me. They were all the same.

So stand out of the crowd (not too far out lol) and a guy will notice you. Also, you've gotta flirt in high school, because most guys are totally oblivious if you like them or not if you pretty much don't outright say it.

Most of all, be patient. You've probably got 60-70 more years in your life. So what's the rush?

Just because every person you know has a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't mean it would make you happy. Especially since it is very common for guys in high school to pretty much get lost after using them, or break it off for the next hot girl that comes along. I mean, are there any boys you really want a relationship with? And as hard as it is, don't let all that teen angst inhibit your intelligence.

P.S. My first real relationship with a girl was when I was 19