Did I do the right thing?
I have just recently broke it off with a guy who I started dating three weeks before summer ended. We were going out on dates for those three weeks, but then he had to go away for school. I only saw him every 2-3 months when he came home. We would go out once or twice, but then he had to leave again. I then started having doubts about the relationship. Things about him annoyed me, I would think about what it would be like if I dated another guy. My other friend, who was going through a long distance relationship as well, would yearn for her boy to come home and would count down the days, while I was less enthusiastic about mine coming home. I even forgot about what day he was coming home and almost made plans to go somewhere else that day. It was my friend who had to remind me that he was coming home. It was then that I decided to break it off with him - telling him that the long distance thing was not working out. The breakup went as well as can be expected and we decided to remain friends.
My question is, did I do the right thing? I know that the long distance thing made it hard for me to go on dates with him to get to know him, but I kept asking myself...do I really want to keep dating him? There was nothing bad about him. In fact he was a very good guy, but I just didn't feel any sparks with him.
Should I have held on to the relationship or did I do the right thing in breaking it off with him? Sometimes I feel so sure that I did, but there is always this itch at the back of my head that regrets the decision.
Why would you regret it?
- There's no actual connection between you two
- He's not even around.
Sure he's a good guy, but so what? Doesn't mean he's what YOU need.
From your post I definitely agree that you made the right decision.No need to settle for someone you're not satisfied with.
If you don't miss someone when they aren't around for long periods of time, that's a pretty good indication that you're aren't that into him. It's better that you broke it off now rather than dragging it out and waiting until the two of you are deeper into the relationship. If he's a great guy, he'll find someone else and you'll find someone else as well. No harm, no foul.
Honestly, it doesn't sound like he was that broken up about it either, so perhaps you two were on the same page, but you just pulled the trigger first..... better that he didn't call it off first, right? HAHA!
Throughout I have in my history with a long distance relationship, I had discovered that there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship.
- Establish an effective communication channel
- Plan to meet each other
- Build hobby that you can both share
- Surprise your partner
Is anyone want to add more?
if you have to talk yourself into doing something, then it probably isnt the right thing to do.
you did what you felt was right, and it probably was.
the itch on the back of your head is because you are a good person, and still worried if you hurt a friend.
you did the right thing.
Posting Permissions
LinkBack URL
About LinkBacks
Bookmarks