Love or Lust?
Sort of hypothetical. Two people who just got out of long term relationships. He left because he was confused about what he really wants. She left because the last guy was too controlling. They've been coworkers for a while, and are now seeing each other. It's been nearly three weeks.
Any moments they have free, they are together. Sleep overs every night, even if one has to leave in the middle of the night because that's when the other gets off work. When they are not together, they text regularly. This has been consistent since they've been seeing each other.
Is this natural and healthy behaviour for people who have just started seeing each other? Does it indicate truly strong feelings, or is it just the rush and lust of being with a new person? How long does this kind of behaviour usually last? Does it peak and then suddenly die or does it taper off slowly? Is it a good sign that something more long-term will develop?
Thoughts?
There is no such thing as a "normal" relationship.
You have nobody's expectations to live up to but your own.
If the relationship is functional and makes you and him both happy, then go for it. There's no such thing as normal behavior or measurement of everybody who has been in this sort of situation.
If it feels right, then make yourself happy. If it feels wrong to you and you are having doubts, then don't indulge.
Those are the only real requirements for a good relationship
They call it PMS because Mad Cow Disease was already taken.
Girls have unique powers; they get wet without water, bleed without injury and make boneless things hard...
Women are meant to be loved, not understood.-Oscar Wilde
true dat.
The situation can turn with way, and there is no say where it will end up
I suggest that you just enjoy it and see where it goes. One shouldn't worry about where everything will end up all the time, since that doesn't usually bring fresh air into the relationship. Just have fun!
In my experience and through observation(I's a scientist! XD lol not really) that happens a lot, in the beginning of new relationships there's a lot of passion and the constant need to want to be with them, learn more about them. It does dwindle, but that's because you've already learned all about them, you've gotten more comfortable with them, and you know what to expect from them.
When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.
~Sri Chimnoy Ghose
You didn't say how long they have been separated from their partners, and even then, it's how long "emotionally" they have been separated.
If they were emotionally un-attached for some time, then what you are describing is a new beginning and a start of something that can be good.
Lust, is usually, chemistry I believe, sexual, when you start adding in, waiting until 12am to see each other, so be it, there's a bit more involved...
Love takes a long time, but compatibility doesn't it can happen over night, just the belief and the evidence.
Nothing has to dwindle when in love...
But, chemistry does dwindle as you get to know the person and decide how you feel about that person.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
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