Thread: I don't know how to tell him :(

I would simply tell him "I am really glad we've been together for the past year, and we've grown so close during that time. Because I want us to grow even closer, I want to share something with you about a health struggle I have and have been searching for the right way to share about it. I don't talk about it much, but because I trust and love you, I wanted to think about how to express it to you. Basically, I just need you to know that I have epilepsy."

And take it from there...

I don't think that this is something that you should hide from him. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. It's also something that can be controlled with medicine.

I made two mistakes.... hubris... stopped my meds, and worse, didn't tell my hubs (well, we weren't married at that point) - but I had a seizure, and eek.... I basically face-planted on pavement (one black eye and a scar and nerve damage in my forehead later, I realize not taking meds is a BAD idea) and ended up in the hospital and THEN had to tell him.

He wasn't mad that I didn't tell him, he was more concerned that I hadn't for MY well being.

This isn't something that you should be worried about. I totally get that you are scared that he may feel like he has to treat you with "kid gloves" - but once you talk with him and really help him understand that you're okay and have everything under control, he should understand.

I kind of equate it to someone with high blood pressure. Would you freak out about it should he come to you with that diagnosis? Probably not, but you'd be concerned that he's doing everything that he can to keep it "in check" - same thing with you, different scenario.

I hope that helped.... P.S. I have NO feeling above my left eyebrow.... always take the meds!

Originally Posted by Explorer44

I would simply tell him "I am really glad we've been together for the past year, and we've grown so close during that time. Because I want us to grow even closer, I want to share something with you about a health struggle I have and have been searching for the right way to share about it. I don't talk about it much, but because I trust and love you, I wanted to think about how to express it to you. Basically, I just need you to know that I have epilepsy."

And take it from there...

Good suggestion! I second your advice!

Thank you everyone, u are all right and i really appreciate the advice i have never been ashamed of having epilepsy, i have been through alot of hard times with it but now i am finally in a place where i have accepted it and now i know that he deserves to know aswell. It just makes me feel really vulnerable but i need to trust him and give him a chance. I think i will tell him this weekend, i need to do it as soon as possible because we are going abroad soon and he needs to know incase anything happens while we are away.

Thanks again