I think you really really have to stop worrying about what others think, or proving them wrong... etc. Because at the end of the day , they don't care. So its to only your detriment when you make life altering decisions based on what other people think. The person(s) that said you'd never land an indian man... said then moved on with their day. They don't sit up at night re-affirming their belief that you wont... and if you did end up marrying an indian man and won this bet, proved them wrong, "in your face guys"!!
They'd say 'wow, we were wrong'. ' oh wait, but he isn't an indian man of xyz height, or xzy job or blah blah blah... they will find something else to say you didn't do right. There are a lot of people in the world that are miserable. That don't want you to be happy because they are not happy. They will be negetive, tell you what you can't have, tell you what you do wrong and what you'll never do right. Those are the people its pointless to prove anything to as they will always find something to knit-pick about.
Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.
I only bumped this thread to say that I'm in a healthy relationship.........with someone outside of my race. He treats me like a queen and he has expressed that he wanted to be in a serious and committed relationship with me. He has waited patiently for a few months until I was ready for intimacy. Once we did get intimate, he acts exactly like the same as he did in the beginning!
I'm so glad I stepped outside of the box.It's a breath of fresh air to be treated with respect.
this was a scary post to read. i am glad that you trusted your instincts and that you are in a good place.
I'm so happy for you finally getting a good SO. I'm sure he is very happy to be with you, just as you are with him. Good luck on the future. Don't try to cross the rivers before you get to them (with your family).Originally Posted by PaneraBread
I only bumped this thread to say that I'm in a healthy relationship.........with someone outside of my race. He treats me like a queen and he has expressed that he wanted to be in a serious and committed relationship with me. He has waited patiently for a few months until I was ready for intimacy. Once we did get intimate, he acts exactly like the same as he did in the beginning!
I'm so glad I stepped outside of the box.
Thank you for the kind words. Unfortunately, I had to let my parents know. My parents put an ad behind my back on the same indian matrimonial site that this topic is referring to.Everyone else on this forum is saying my experience is scary, but my parents don't seem to care. They were giving my pictures and phone numbers out to random rich men that were interested! They say they're trying to do what's best for me, but I feel they were putting me at risk again. I guess they're just so desperate to get me married.
I first voiced, "I'm not comfortable with this at all." They weren't listening to me, and demanded that I talk to these men that they were trying to set them up with. They tried to guilt me about how I'm getting old, blah blah blah.........It was either go along with what my parents wanted me to do or tell them the truth. Once I told them the truth about how I was dating someone else, the ad was taken off.
They're not happy at all that I'm dating a non-Indian, but I can't emphasize on how great it feels to be treated nicely and accepted for who I am. Once you experience the "other side", you definitely don't want to go back.
Good for you. Challenging customs can be scary but at least aren't likely to be a victim of an 'honor' killing, it sounds like while your family isn't thrilled they are at least accepting for now. Given time, if they see you happy and well treated, they may even come to be happy for you?
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
It sounds to me that he's only after the physical appearance. If I was you, I wouldn't send any picture.
Don't entertain him. It's not a gentlemen way
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