Thread: First date - conversation got way too heavy! Need some advise please!

I just told him in so many words to get lost. I told him that he needed to get his life back into order. That he needed to get that divorce. I want a husband and baby. My clock is ticking. I don't want to wait forever while he takes his time getting that divorce. He is obviously in no hurry. Why should I loose my heart to him because that is what will happen if I spend time with him. I'm just a diversion to him. I told him that he already had a wife and has children. I haven't had that and don't have time to waste. We want two different types of lives.

I told him to get a divorce and then look me up if he wants. I also said that he will instead probably tell me to get lost. Because i don't mean anything to him and that is fine. Because we have just met. I want to be friends with him at singles event. If he doesn't want that. Then that his choice I said.



Ok, I want a child but I also want to find that right guy. If the child doesn't come around in time, I will have to accept that. But I don't want to waste time like this guy wants me to do. I figured the baby part would get rid of him, so be it. This guy doesn't get the hint.

He finally got the hint and gave up. He said it seemed like I wrote it harsher than I meant to. Maybe I did but he wasn't getting the hint!! He said he could never have any more children and would understand how I would want them. Maybe he got his tubes tied. Who knows. I'm not about to ask.

I do like him but it is not meant to be between us. He doesn't even see his wife that he wants to divorce as baggage. So he obviously is in no hurry for that divorce. But I already knew that.