Living together

**LoveCatherine** · 06-14-2010 09:40 AM

Opinions on whether there is a time scale set to when you should move in together?
My boyfriend lives alone, I stay over every weekend, he wants me to stay over more and I feel like he's hinting about maybe moving in together, but he hasn't actually said. Silly things like he said it's nice to have two toothbrushes in the bathroom and he's happy for me to leave my personal things at his.
Are these signs? good or bad?

**KMonte85** · 06-14-2010 09:54 AM

There's no set timeline on when a couple should live together.. some move in together within a few weeks/months of knowing each other, some don't live together until after they are married. It all depends on what the two of you are comfortable with...

It seems like he enjoys you being there, and if he doesn't mind you keeping things there it may be a sign that he wouldn't mind if you two lived together. BUT, you can't know that for sure until you talk to him about it. Ask yourself, if YOU are ready to take that step.. and if you are, bring it up to your boyfriend - see how he's feeling.. and take it from there! Communication is the key and the only way you will have your answers for what is the right step for you two to take and when

**rcoreyus** · 06-14-2010 10:17 AM

Living together early in a relationship is fine - but be sure that if things go badly you are in a situation where you can leave if you need to.

**LoveCatherine** · 06-15-2010 06:59 AM

I think for the time being I'll go with the flow. And see if he mentions things, I'm happy as we are but with him asking me to stay over more I thought he may of been hinting along the lines.

**pretzel** · 06-15-2010 07:18 AM

Originally Posted by LoveCatherine

I think for the time being I'll go with the flow. And see if he mentions things, I'm happy as we are but with him asking me to stay over more I thought he may of been hinting along the lines.

He might be. He might be testing to idea himself before he feels that this would be a good move for the two of you. I'd think along the same lines if I were you. This is going to be a big deal if it happens so you need to be just as comfortable with the idea as he is going to be.

**Joey** · 06-15-2010 09:18 AM

Originally Posted by rcoreyus

Living together early in a relationship is fine - but be sure that if things go badly you are in a situation where you can leave if you need to.

I agree, not that it will go wrong!, but for the 'just incase' side of things.

**LoveCatherine** · 06-18-2010 03:03 AM

I'm not sure what to do, he wants to me to stay over more during the week I start work at 830am and it's 5 miles away from his house so I say no to stopping during the week because of that. But I think he's thinks that's just an excuse, so I just say maybe one day. He wants me to stay over more, which I'm guessing is a good thing but at the same time I don't want him to think I won't ever stay over during the week, I don't want to blow things for the future ahead and him think that I don't ever want move in with him.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 06-18-2010 03:31 AM

5 Miles, so like 10 k,s that's not far sweet.

I think that he does think it's an excuse, that's not far at all... So, he's maybe feeling in-secure that you will what, on weekends, but not during the week.

You do say "maybe one day" so that's like, does she love being here with me or not?

If you don't want him to think you won't stay over during the week, then stay over one night... Your kind of skirting a little and making him not sure of where you are both at.

That's called, kind off..... playing a game...

Always be honest in your relationship.. No need to play games, it won't work

CW

**LoveCatherine** · 06-18-2010 04:19 AM

Thank you.

At the same time if I did stay more during the week, I don't want him to think I'm getting ideas about moving in and wanting to push things quickly a long because I don't - I want things to go with the flow and eventually reach that type of commitment when were both ready.
I understand men don't like pressure and I don't want him to think I'm a typical girlfriend who after moving in but I don't want not to stay to jepodize any future plans he may have about living together.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 06-18-2010 04:28 AM

LoveCatherine?

Tell him exactly that. See, if you communicate, you have a much better chance of succeeding in a relationship.

It's when they are second guessing that it fails.

Nothing at all wrong with what you just stated.

CW