Thread: I really shouldnt feel like this!

Originally Posted by SaharaJim

Rather walk on broken glass with barefeet than "diagnose" a "woman's problem" but is that possibly what is going on here?

Rofl. I get really really sensitive right before my period... like sometimes a week before to just a couple days before. I am not a very thick-skinned person to begin with but on those days I am pretty vulnerable to insecurities and getting my feelings hurt from something that otherwise may have just bugged me a little... but at that time in my cycle it goes from bugging me a little to turning into a huge ordeal.

My boyfriend is very aware of my nature and this pattern so he's a little more careful with me at certain times... and I always thank him for it later. I remember one night I had a big fit about something and the next day I appologised... I was going to tell him it was likely just my impending period making that reactional but... before I got the chance to, he said -- I figured it was just your hormones.

WHATTTTTTTT. Even though... I was totally about to say, it was just my hormones... HIM saying it first, him assuming (although correct) really burned my britches lol.

You are right to use caution assuming a woman is behaving hormonally... even if she is lol.


For the OP. Dear you are obsessing too much. You are too worried about him leaving you, him cheating on you to actually enjoy this relationship. Don't spend your time on the edge of your seat waiting for this thing to end. Instead enjoy it for what it is to you right now, and how he treats you right now... if he starts to distance, then cross that bridge and decide to let go if he's not making you feel special and wanted..

But you are pre-emptively dooming this relationship, being filled with gloom and doom... and thats no way to live. If he makes you feel insecure, address what issues lead to your insecurities. If they are tangible things that he can handle differently to make you feel better... discuss that. Communicate ways that he can comfort you and reassure you. Its not his job to fix your insecurities... but if he loves you, it won't be too hard for him to help ease them when they arise if he can.

Originally Posted by Mes_T

Where do your insecurities stem from, honestly?

I was just thinking the same as Mes - Have you had past relationships that havent ended well? maybe your ex didnt treat you as you deserved? I know that a lot of my insecurities are from my past relationships and how i was treated in certain ways.

Im guessing (correct me if im wrong!) that from reading your past threads, that most of your insecurities may have developed from your boyfriends actions - such as texting girls, going out with his mates on wild parties (especially the annoying ones)?

Insecurities are an ugly thing - i should know i can be terrible at times. If my boyfriend goes to a party without me, i try and find a way of sussing out the people hes going with beforehand. *cringe!!*. but i would like to feel that im not as bad as that anymore. HD is completly right though - you are missing your relationship because you are worrying to much about the 'what ifs' and the 'buts' which are highly unlikely to happen anyway.

Thanks - I sort of made a comment to BF last night - we went for a celebration drink and I jokingly said "oh, your gonna earn lots of money and leave me cos your high and mighty now." and laughed and he said "thats what I thought when you got your new job." I was gobsmacked! I asked him why he hadnt said anything and he said he would have felt stupid telling me and that he half expected me to find a rich older guy at my new job and leave him! I said "Oh and theres me just coming out with it and looking the fool" and he laughed and said "I am happy with you - I dont want any one else - it just means I can treat you more like you have treated me." So my whole day of being a jelous worried stressed mess was a waste and I really need to spend less time analysing the negatives and just enjoy!