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  1. 06-24-2010 10:47 PM #1
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    Question What should I do??? Please help

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    Hello! I need some advice/opinions on this from someone. I'd really appreciate it if someone can help!

    So here's what happened. I was at a party almost two weeks ago when this guy started flirting with me. Now, this is kinda big for me since a guy has never openly flirted with me before, especially not one that I actually like.

    So he asks for my number and tells me he and his friends are going to play soccer the next day and that I should come. So I go to this thing, but things were not what I thought it'd be. First, there were only two people there that I even knew with only one other girl there. Second, they were all playing a serious game, not a casual one like he said it would be. And third, 2 of the guys there were from my high school, and they were guys who used to bully me too. So, I bailed...

    I text him apologizing for leaving so soon and to text me if he ever wanted to hang out. I hear nothing from him for a week, so I text him on Monday saying I'm in the area and asking him what he was up to. No response. Later that day, I talk to him on facebook. He says he was in class and apologizes for not responding, which I forgot about so I understood. But the conversation didn't last long because he had something early in the morning.

    So this is what I'm wondering: What should I do now? Is he mad at me for bailing last time? Should I try to meet up with me so I can explain, or should I just give up?
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  2. 06-24-2010 11:02 PM #2
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    "Bailing" on an event, one time, is not a big deal in anyone's book. If you ever do want to mention it again, do so casually, say it in passing but don't make a big deal out of it.

    He's probably not that interested in any specific person, hence the lack of message responses. But for you, he's a little bit on a pedestal - he's the first guy you like who's flirted with you, and now you might have your hopes up a little, expectations mights grow... But for him, he's just hanging out, meeting people, you know?

    Take it from me, I was in high school not that long ago!
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    You showed up, thats all that matters... its not at all like you blew him off. You sent him 2 texts he didn't respond to. Busy or not, he could haven't gotten back later if he wanted to. He replied to you on facebook but cut it short. I'd say not to worry too much as he may just not be the kind of person that is so into their phone and pays attention to each and every text however I would let him inniciate next conact.

    If he's interested he'll be in touch soon... and if he's intrigued but not sure if he's totally interested... letting him be the one to make next contact could be the determaining factor... like if he's on the fence about whether or not he wants to get to know you more and you push with texts too much when he hasn't even gotten back from the last he might think you are a lil too eager. (boys are so weird that way).

    So just relax, and know that you don't owe him an appology... he invited you to the game, you went... you showed interest by doing that so don't worry about him thinking you don't like him just cause you didn't stay. And in fact that may play into your favor more as you won't look like you desperately hung around waiting for him to finish the game, etc.

    I don't believe you should follow 'rules' or play head games, you should be yourself 100% but all that being said, you've made contact, he's know your wanting to get to know him -- the ball is in his court now.
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    I agree, let him decide if he wants anymore. You dont want to become an "annoying" girl he met that wont leave him alone. (Not saying that's what your doing now, just saying). It's not a big deal that you left the game either.
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    Hmmm, thanks! This is all very good advice. But here's another question: I'm on facebook and I see him in the Instant Messaging window. He's been there for a while. Should I still wait for him to make contact or should I just say hi to him casually?
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    you should wait... wait until he contacts you. You've already put yourself out there enough... its his turn to show he has interest.
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    You have offered him your time to hang out. So just wait, until he contacts you. I wouldn't be too disappointed about bailing him.
    I mean, from what I understand you guys just met. So, there are many more opportunities too fix things, or start all over. You guys aren't
    exactly, dating! So I don't think you should rush into things, && feel Guilty.
    Hope that helps ?
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    You state that there were guys there that bullied you.

    I am suspecting that they laughed and told him this, and he's shallow.. He hasn't had the chance to get to know you, yet he's taken their conversations and is not going there because of their conversation over it with you.

    THAT means he's not worth a second look, conversation... He's SHALLOW..


    I'd write on facebook... Well I guess your shallow, the guys at that game, that you put me with are bullies, but they are your friends and I guess, they had a right old laugh at their torment, if you were cool, you would have gotten to know me and seen me, and kicked their butt, but, your shallow obviously.. hope you see this as a lesson, because making assumption makes an azz out of you and me, only it's you on this occassion......

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