I'm worried about what might happen with me and my bf when college time comes

**Lunar_Lilith** · 07-30-2010 08:55 PM

Ok well, school starts in one month for me, and my amazing boyfriend and I are going to be seniors in highschool. We both want to go to college, and he told me that his scholarships and stuff are already settled and everything is paid for. On the other hand, for me, I have no idea where I'm going to college and how to get a grant/scholarship/loan or anything. I'm afraid that I might not be able to go to college or something, and he leaves me behind and starts a new phase in his life without me. We really genuinely love each other, and he told me he wanted to be with me for a long time and raise a family and all that. I believe him, but I hope he doesn't change his mind. I'm scared. I don't want to lose him. We have a great relationship and put alot of time and effort into it. Can you awesome people give me advice and help me out? I would appreciate it :].
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**Casey715** · 07-31-2010 10:04 AM

I know you care for your bf but this is the greatest time of your life. Your still young and have sooo much to look forward to. I know this is not what you are wanting to hear, but you have to be open and just trust that what happens is for the good. Focus on school and talk to your counselors and do what needs to be done to get into college. DON'T get left behind, college is very important to your
future earning potential (and life experience) plus life sucks without a good job. Just look at your quote by the good Dr. Dyer, "The most beautiful things in all the universe are the most mysterious."

**WildChild** · 07-31-2010 10:46 AM

This is tough. I know of couples who got together in HS and 35 years later are still happily married. But truth is that isn't common. At this time in your life you love each other and want to be together, so do that.

You are young and growing and developing as people still, as you should be throughout your life. Who you are now, isn't who you will be in 2, 5 or 10 years. Don't be so ready to lock yourselves in this early. If you are right for each other for a lifetime then separation or college won't change that. Relax and enjoy where you are now. Plan your education based on what You want in Your life, not on what will keep the two of you side by side.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-01-2010 12:58 AM

I have no idea where I'm going to college and how to get a grant/scholarship/loan or anything

It's great that your boyfriend has told you of his plans all coming together, but you don't mention anywhere, where he has helped you find out your plans

Ask him if he got a grant/scholarship/loan... Ask your school who do you contact in order to find out your options.

That's your first step instead of wondering...

As for if he would move on? Know that in your heart, where you both are at and feel it.. Fear always gets in the way of any success in life. Make sure you are both on the same page and don't fear, once you have found out your options, discuss those with him and how you are going to continue your relationship from there.

And, here I stress as others have. Too many people ALSO make the mistake of giving up everything for their partner, that can be their time, and therefore, not study, that can be College, to be with them, that can be anything really. Realise that all people love independent people as well, those who have goals, visions, passions because that is what becomes one heck of a team for the future....

So, also concentrate on who you want to be, where you want to be in life.. It's not all up to the man trust me, it's up to two people..

CW

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