are men still attracted to a woman if they've had a child??

**hizenberg** · 08-21-2010 04:07 AM

i am wondering if men still checkout women if theyve had a child?i mean do they get off on their bodys as much as woman who hasnt had a child/children??
i am about 60kgs and still have a figure,just not as toned. but take off my clothes and i have strectch marks on my tummy,
hips and breasts. i think my tummy looks like a deflated balloon, but ive been told its not too bad.
im not up myself and dont think im hot and im not vain but i still wonder ,do i still got it?? lol if that makes sense,so id like to know do men still check out women who have a child reared bodyand get the same effect as a women who hasnt had a child??

**Mes T** · 08-21-2010 06:19 AM

Lots of women who have had children look way better than sooooo many women who never have. I think it comes down to how well you take care of yourself. A friend of mine has had two children now and she looks better than any of us.

**jns** · 08-21-2010 08:36 AM

Men and women both change over time. It is to be expected. When you are young, you think that the rules don't apply. They still do. I like it if a woman has a good personality. She can have a wide range of body types but she should have a good personality. Stretch marks are like scars. They add to character. There are many guys who won't have any objections to the stretch marks. Every fold and wrinkle on your stomach is something else to explore.

**Hopeless Dork** · 08-21-2010 11:10 AM

I have stretch marks on my tummy but the little hot 22 year old cashiers at the grocery store hit on me on me sometimes LOL.. I'm in a relationship and the attention just makes me giggle, I am not looking for anything but my boyfriend anywhere. I think its all in attitude and how you carry yourself... a mom can be hotter than a non mom... a mom sporting a mom haircut, wearing mom jeans and a tshirt that says dallas county PTA probably is not as appealing as a mom that does her hair up, make up, puts on some fitted jeans and tank and pair of heels. So it really just depends on how you carry yourself, how you take care of yourself and attitude... attitude makes you sexy, when you feel sexy, you are sexy .. and everyone around you can see it.

**caterpillar79** · 08-21-2010 02:21 PM

I watched the Hasselhoff roast and saw Lisa Lampanelli who is very big and fat compared to Pamela Anderson. Watching all of them throw nasty words at each other just for fun was ok, but one thing stood out to me. Lisa, who is fat and not as sexy as Pamela, took everything aimed at her confidently and positively, and really looked like she was having fun! On the other hand, Pamela Anderson, whom I expected to be more confident, almost or sort of squirmed almost everytime they poke some dirt on her - not attractive, not sexy at all!

I asked my husband whom he thought is "sexier" and more attractive
between the two and he chose Lisa, the big fat but confident woman. She looked so radiant as she proudly laughed with all of her fellow roasters. Moral of my story, self-confidence means a lot. And you can have it if you love yourself enough to make sure that you take good care of your whole being, not only physically. Beauty should start from within.

We all have our ups and downs, but don't be discouraged! I had 2 kids, I have stretch marks. I was toned and then not toned, and I looked in the mirror one day and decided that it's not what I am. Until now, I'm still working on keeping a toned physically fit body. I'm not claiming I have a perfect life nor am I perfect, but I still get a lot of attention from men and even women around me even if it's just a small compliment like "oh, you're so cute!".

To answer your query, YES! Men still are going to be attracted to women who have had kids, with stretch marks, and all the physical flaws that we can think of. All boils down to how you carry yourself. The confidence and self- esteem shows through and if you lack those, you should be working on having them back out in the open. Don't best yourself up - that never helps.

Take care!

**hizenberg** · 08-23-2010 12:55 AM

thanks all for your feedback its so true when we put it down to being self confident and whats on the inside that counts, because somone can look like a 'model' but be such a ugly person inside. thanks so much everyone for replying, great insite

**Tiptopshape** · 08-23-2010 07:33 AM

Believe it or not but some guys do still find women with a kid/kids attractive. I know friends who are single parents but are in a great relationships with men who are single. I think it only depends in compatibilities as two people learn to know each other regardless of their past.

**Texinator** · 08-23-2010 01:32 PM

Originally Posted by caterpillar79

Moral of my story, self-confidence means a lot.

It does. I'll take some stretch marks, a c-section scar, and some extra baby fat with lots of self confidence over a toned and 'flawless' body without self confidence any day of the week.

**Crying a broken hearth** · 08-24-2010 01:15 PM

wow great comment from a great person

**rhiannon34** · 08-24-2010 03:18 PM

I have had 2 kids, and I've never had anyone gross out yet at the site of me without clothes on(except me of course). My ex husband was the only person who would put me down for the way my boobs looked or whatever. But he was just that way. I have stretch marks all over my stomach, my boobs are not near as perky as they used to be. But my bf thinks I am the hottest woman out there, and unbelievably, actually compares me to Angelina Jolie (he may be delusional cause I look NOTHING like her) beause he says I just exude sexiness. Sometimes I'm just like "whhaaaa?". but he actually believes what he is saying. I think being a mom makes women in general more mature, confident, and more down to earth or grounded, and I think that is a very attractive quality about a woman.