Thread: Depressed.

I needed somewhere to ask for advice, and I needed advice from strangers who can give me an all-round opinion on my situation so here goes..

I'm 20 years old, and I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I have a very controlling mother who suffers from extreme selfishness and STILL tries to control my every move.

2 years ago, I moved to England with my boyfriend to live with his parents for a while, because I had to escape my mother. We recently moved back up to live with her for uni as I thought she had changed in that time, but it's the worst mistake I could EVER have made.

She's nothing but an unreasonable bully, the kind of person who does not or will not listen to any other person's opinion, ever. She is a compulsive liar and denies her actions and words even if there are 3 witnesses in the room to say she did it. I try to talk to her, I try to scream at her, I try threatening her to move back out, but she just beats me down. End of story.

She treats my stepdad (who has brought me up since I was 2) like complete , takes all his money and has been having affairs for around 6 years because he works away from home. Right now her boyfriend and herself have been "seeing" each other for 2 years almost... he's married, with kids and grandchildren. He is the only person she doesn't abuse.

My boyfriend is the kindest, most loving, most gentle person I have ever met; he's loved by all his friends, my friends, his and my family dearly. We have an amazing relationship, but I fear my mother is going to break it down.

We've lived together for 2years and a half altogether now, and he's recently applied and accepted student accommodation at the university we're going to be studying at, because he cannot stand the way my mother treats my brother and I. She forces my brother to do stupid stuff, like cutting the grass 4 times a day, and making her food and coffee whilst she sits, unemployed, on benefits, on her arse all day. He's a fool for doing it, you may say, but if he doesn't she kicks off and beats him and smashes up his belongings. I've had this since I was about 13, and now she has started on him.

I was looking to get a flat with a family friend, Becca, as Alex just wants some space to himself and doesn't want to take on the responsibility of a flat whilst we study at uni - that's perfectly fine, right? I'm 100% fine with it, as is he, because we know we have a strong, trusting relationship. But my mother has made it her business to tell EVERYONE. All my family and her friends, but of course adds on her famous little lies - like saying he was hitting me in England, he's constantly moody with me. that he's using me, and she doesn't think it'll last. It's NOTHING like that! Anyone who sees us together can see how amazing we are, and how much we love each other. All she cares about is her image! She could not STAND to let people think he ever moved out because of her, so she's making it out that he's a complete and it's all my fault.

Talking to her is out of the question, I'm honest to God not exaggerating. All she does is scream and pull out of her that no one has ever said or done, and persists she's right. I've never met anyone like her before! She is a compulsive liar! The lies she tells her boyfriend about people is extremely dangerous, and completely unfair on everyone around her. She thinks she's perfect, that she's God's Gift.

My boyfriend is extremely unhappy living here, as am I - but I can't apply for student accommodation now as they have no spare rooms, and financially I simply cannot afford a flat right now. It would take about 6months to save up some money to move out, and I'm terrified she is going to break my relationship in that time. She is evil and twisted, and I don't know how to get her to stop, and just let me live my life.

As for reporting her to the law? You probably wouldn't believe me if I told you she manipulates them to make everyone else look like a liar and a fool. She had an affair with a good Christian (pff, yea right?) policeman, and now every one of them down at the station thinks she's awesome because she picks up and drops men like toys. She flirts with EVERYONE, or puts on waterworks to get them on her side. She will do ANYTHING to protect her image, and I just wish that someone knew what she was really like!

My boyfriend has already stated he'd like to try and avoid coming anywhere near the house because of the unprovoked abuse she hurls at everyone, including him, and I don't want him to be miserable every time he comes to see me. I have no clue what to do. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, and I just keep bouncing back and forward between them, become more and more beaten and broken along the way.

I don't really think there's an answer to my problem - but this is my cry for help. I'm slipping into depression and my heart is breaking because I just want to be able to enjoy my relationship and concentrate on my future...