Thread: Who do I listen to?

Hello. This is my first post here. Let me just give some background information. My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years. We have been thru alot together (I lost my brother and father within 6 months) and he was there for me both times. Then, we hit a rocky road and I pushed him away due to me falling into a depression. He started to drift away but after about 3 months we were able to get things back to a semi-norm. When my boyfriend hangs with his brother he acts like a different person. He drinks and just isnt the same guy. Well, this weekend he went to a birthday party for a friend and didnt call me the entire day. I could have called but I thought I would give him that space to hang with his brother since they work different hours and then go to this get-together. We see each other almost every weekend (we are in a long distance situation of about two hours) and I was pretty okay with us not seeing each other this weekend since I had to work and he had this get-together plus another family members bday the next day. I guess my problem is that when he is around his brother he didnt call me. I didnt know if he would or not but we do normally talk when we dont see each other. It is just a day I understand. I talked about it to my mother like i always do (which might not be the best thing to pull her in) and she asked me if he had called me yet. (He didnt call Saturday and havent heard anything so far and it is early Sunday). I told her no he hasnt. Well, now I am feeling bad and insecure and I dont know if I should blast him when I do hear from him or just be understanding and give him that space. I just know he calls everyday a few times a day. Should I be upset or let this one go? Should I even mention the lack of call? Saturday was his friends get-together for a bday and sunday is my boyfriends family members bday. I know if i ask family they will tell me i should be upset.