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Reply With QuoteDo you have any friendships with other cops or his superior? I wonder if he is stalking you. Try to find out.
Date #2 went very well. Out to dinner then sort of did the same thing we did last time, came back to my place and sat outside listening to music and chatting. There was some good making out this time too.He left at 6am. hehe. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. However, one might know that there was a kink thrown in the works. The ex was "patroling" this area last night and saw the car in my driveway. Says he didn't run the plates, but then saw my date leaving. Then he posted something on his FB about "Unbelievable!!!! Just when you think you know someone. Nothing like a punch in the heart to remind you you're alive". My date had text me last night and said "Nice...I just got followed home by a cop". I thought it was suspicious, but when my ex posted that on his FB I knew for sure what had happened. He (my ex) claims it was coincidence and says he did not follow the guy home. But my date told me this morning that he DEFINITELY followed him home (and he has no reason to lie). So I called my ex this morning and basically told him he better never violate my privacy or the privacy of someone I date again. I really let him have it. He apologized and said he was wrong for thinking the worst of me and that he was wrong for posting that on facebook. lol. Good grief. So....needless to say I really felt bad for the date guy. I called him this morning to explain and apologize. I can hope this doesn't scare him off. haha.
Do you have any friendships with other cops or his superior? I wonder if he is stalking you. Try to find out.
Nah, I don't think he's the "stalker" type. I'm 99.9% sure he's totally harmless. I think he just has a broken heart. I think he way overstepped his boundaries last night, and he knows it. I've been brokenhearted before....I know what its like to see someone you love moving on with their life, and it's devastating. I care alot for him, and it pains me to know that he's so hurt.... but I've reached the end of letting it hold me back. I'm tired of feeling guilty for our relaitonship not working out, and I'm just trying to move on with my life. I explained that to him, and I hope he understands.Originally Posted by jns
I do believe he was patrolling the area as instructed by his sargeant due to some recent car break ins. I believe that. But I don't believe that he didn't follow my date home, run his plates, etc. And then posting what he did on his FB was like the icing on the cake. He doesn't think things through (was one of my problems with him as a boyfriend), and I think he knows he messed up really bad this time.
I just pray his heart mends. The last thing I want is to cause someone hurt.
Why didn't he call you up and say much of what you said to explain his actions and to ask you if everything was alright. His actions don't ring truly innocent.
That's exactly what I said to him. "If you truly do care about me, and truly do see me as a friend, then why didn't you just call me if you felt like you just HAD to know, rather than acting like a psycho and then posting about it on your FB?"
He said he jumped to conclusions and reacted inappropriately. And though he apologized, I have not spoken to him since.
Well 1) Glad the second date went equally well!! I hope there are many more fantastic dates on the horizon. Sounds like you enjoy his company and that is WONDERFUL!
2) I cannot believe your ex did that?! That really is crossing the line. And regardless of broken heartness, if he does it again, honestly, I'd tell him that if it ever happens again..EVER that you will report him to his superior. Honestly, it's just unnecessary and unprofessional. I realize he is hurting so I don't want to sound hateful, because I know breakups are hard, but seriously...That crossed a line in my opinion.
Otherwise, I hope you see more of Mr. New Guy and I hope you will keep us posted
If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it.
-Andy Rooney
It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.--Noel Coward
Live your life and forget your age. --Norman Vincent Peale
Just give him a bit more time. It might have taken him longer than usual since he just got sick and all. And maybe you're right, he may be broke now to be asking you out or he's unsure where to take you out. Just enjoy the time he's giving you as of the moment or if you're that impatient enough, you can just joke around about the date thing...it might give him the push that he needs.
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Sorry, I've just read about the two dates who've been through with the guy.
I'm glad you and you're date are doing progress with regards to the getting to know more of each other stage. Hehe...It's just aweful that your ex had to do that to the date. I really do hope he wasn't at all intimidated by it. Goodluck to you both!
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