Thread: Boyfriend Advice

Stop making excuses. Going out with you
was NOT important to him.

Think about it.

How many times in your life have you
been invited to something and looked
forward to it...

a friend of mine got tickets to the theatre
for a may 12th performance. She's been
considering what to wear since April 20 when
she got the ticket.

Here's how you protect yourself.
You get friends and you make up dates with
them...movie or club or party or visit whatever...
you plan on going out with them.

If he comes up with some idea then you can
cancel with your friends. If he doesn't, you're
busy.

Not that you can teach an old dog a new trick,
because he is one of the many men whose world
consists of me/myself/I.

He won't ever take you into consideration.
He might be a sweet guy, and you can have
him as a 'cushion', but face it...if what you've
posted is 76% accurate...
he forgot all about your date.
Guess it wasn't important to him.

Let him play poker.
That's important to him.
And you go to the movie and dinner.

Thanks for the reply. So I will probably see him tomorrow at work, should I act as nothing is wrong and wait for him to bring it up and then tell him that I made other plans or should I give him the cold shoulder and have him wondering what is wrong. He will eventually figure it out, I think. He has no idea what he did today even though I did sound bummed out but he obviously didn't think about it or he would have called by now to apologize.

Don't make an issue of it. Drop it. Be as cool
as you can. Nothing happened. If he actually
mentions it, shrug, say you made other plans
and drop it.

He did nothing.
He lives in his world and that's the only person
on his planet.
This is how some men stay.

You are not all that important to him in general.
yeah, maybe when he wants affection you're the
first number he'll call, but other than that, he only
thinks about you when he sees you, or feels horny.

Ouch! That is hard to swallow but thanks for the wake up call and I will definitely play it cool tomorrow and see how things go from there. I do know that I need to have a life besides him and it seems like lately it has only been about him and I have been trying to tell myself that I need to stop doing that so hearing it from you is better than me trying to tell myself. Thanks alot.

i agree with what most of what kaylar said...the only thing i'd caution against is making plans with friends but cancelking with them if your bf calls....friends tend not to appreciate that act much...so yes go out and havea life of your own but don't use your friends in the process

I agree with the cancelling on friends for your bf-I don't think that is a good idea either. Thanks for your reply.

I was thinking along the lines of the usual 'iffy' plans,
"I should be at Abdul around six..." kind of thing, not
being the fourth for bridge.