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Only he tell you what it means but it doesn't sound like a very endearing behavior.
Complete Indifference
After leaving my second 2yr+ relationship, I was swept away by someone new. I've felt love before, a kinda grow-together-best-friend love, but I've never had the romantic love/passion, whatever you want to call it. I've never been "in" love, until now.
It's a bit scary, but most commitments are for me. After a couple months into this relationship, we had our first fight. It wasn't over something serious, at all.
We were in public, and I mentioned something that got on his nerves. He looked me in the eyes and was like, "I don't want to deal with you acting like this. I don't want to deal with it today. I don't want to deal with it tomorrow. You need to fix whatever is wrong with you." He was calm as can be, but at the moment, it made me mad enough to leave the store immediately, drive him back to his house, drop him off, and leave him without a word.
We both apologized a couple days later over the phone. It was an... awkward apology. So I didn't say anything about coming over/seeing him. Plus, I had annoyed him. The last thing I wanted to do was invite myself over. So, I figured I'd give him a couple days of space, because literally, we've been inseparable since we met.
We have lunch everyday together with some co-workers of ours. He doesn't hold my hand or anything like that. He doesn't act rude, just -- indifferent. Completely indifferent. When we're at lunch, no question is directed towards me. Other than lunch, he doesn't talk to me at all.
How should I take this indifference? Does it mean he doesn't care about me like I thought?
Only he tell you what it means but it doesn't sound like a very endearing behavior.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
I'm wondering what you did that got on his nerves........ because his reaction seemed very harsh and degrading. I don't blame you one bit for getting upset about it and leaving.
I think it's important to talk to him about this. Get it all out there on the table before this sits so long and more resentment and insecurity brews.
After you both apologized over the phone, you should have met and been together to seal the deal. He is probably taking the separation after the apologies as that you are still mad at him. Meet with him in private and talk to each other, especially why you both got so mad at the other. Lay some ground rules for the future so you don't get into anymore standoffs.
As for what I had done, I mentioned having sex three times. I was on my period, which he does not do. It wasn't that I expected him to have sex with me right then and there, I was just like, "Dang it, I'm horny." Or short comments like that. After the third one, it just kinda got under his skin.
In the future, Jns, I'll take your advice. He ended up breaking up with me shortly after I had written this.
Thanks for the help guys. Sorry I couldn't give you better news. =/
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