Torn between two guys, what should I do?

**collegegirl2010** · 10-08-2010 08:41 PM

I don't know what to do...ok, there's this really cute white guy and he's really sweet. He always opens doors for females and stuff, like one day he was walking out the door then turn back and saw and ran to the door as if I were a queen or something and held the door open for me and said,"I didn't want to be rude." From the very first day I saw him I thought he was really cute, but after that I really feel in love with him. Lately all I could think of was him. And on the other hand, there's this other guy who asked me out, but I told him I'd like to start out as friend first. But he seems like a sweet guy too, he says he's a virgin and he's really shy. I'm really torn between the two. I mean I don't know if the other guy likes me, and I was wondering if I should let him know how I feel about him or wait for him to make a move? I really don't know what to do at this piont, I'm really frustrated and depressed about this.

**dr.mansview** · 10-08-2010 09:09 PM

why not let them both know that you are interested..after a few dates with them you can decide who you prefer..i'm not saying be sneaky about it..if one asks you out and you already have a date with the other guy,be upfront about it..say sorry i can't tonite but what about saturday? it's the beginning of the relationship with both guys so there really is no commitment with either one at this point..i know not all guys or gals are comfortable with this approach, but i never had a problem with it if the girl was honest about the situation

**stressed** · 10-11-2010 12:50 AM

I think you should give the second guy a chance by dating him. What I'm worried about the first guy is that you seem to be impressed by his manners (the fact he did the obvious and actually nothing really special) more than his personality. The second guy shows genuine interest (in my opinion), while the first guy is just polite (and cute). Politeness is a nice trait in a man, but don't let it affect your judgement before you get to know more about the personality.

**collegegirl2010** · 10-11-2010 10:29 AM

Originally Posted by stressed

I think you should give the second guy a chance by dating him. What I'm worried about the first guy is that you seem to be impressed by his manners (the fact he did the obvious and actually nothing really special) more than his personality. The second guy shows genuine interest (in my opinion), while the first guy is just polite (and cute). Politeness is a nice trait in a man, but don't let it affect your judgement before you get to know more about the personality.

I talk to the second guy now...he's a jerk, all he talks about is sex and sending him nude pics, when I told him I was a virgin and wasn't ready for stuff like that.