I had my first boyfriend when I was 16 who broke my heart and it was the WORST thing I ever had to go through. He told me I wasn't his type but used me for sex and had a online g/f behind my back. My swore to myself I'd never date again... until I found "the one" I also found it hard to meet guys, didnt want to find someone who would keep me from moving when i finished school and I was afraid of getting hurt. I guess by the time I was 22 I was so sick of it and i got involved with 1 guy and he took advnatage of me which was a really bad expierence but I moved on from it and when I was 23 this happened...

I met a guy I worked with (different departments) and we kinda met off plentyoffish but we first talked at work first and we started seeing one another and things were fine but I was super shy around him and didnt now what to say cus im a pretty shy person and then a month he came online with msn names like "I love stephanie" and then he started ignoring me so i ignored him and he didnt know why and i wrote him all these emails cause he kept leading me on and stuff and acting like everything was fine.

but I was so stressed out about the other girl and he wouldn't tell me anything about what was going on so I really didn't have a choice I needed to know the truth so I made a fake msn to find out he was in love with this online gf who was his one true love but they never even met and he said he had been loyal to her or whatever and then things didnt work out and he cut me out becuase he felt we had no chemistry... i also gave him a fake phone # which was my friends bf he would text and ask out for drinks and all the time and my friends bf got so fed up he told him off and at that point he thought it was the online gf and got super mad.

so then.. we got back together and things were fine he got fired from the hospital for slacking and he wants to put his degree to use and he kept telling me he ddint want a relationship or whatever and thigns were okay but the communication was iffy and then one day he told me he felt really bad about this but he got drunk and did stuff with a friend it wasnt sex and now she thinks shes pregnant there was only close rubbing involved and then he just pretty much cut me loose wouldnt meet up to talk face to face or let alone let me know what was going on so that was pretty much what set me off. And he was playing with with several others so this is what I did for revenge...

I got my former co-worker to text him and find out a bunch of information like if he had any kids, he basically told me stuff about his online gf and was saying she was the one for him, and he had been loyal to her and there was nobody else... so we pretended we texted the wrong number and he asked the fake texting girl to meet up so I basically stood him up.

And the next day I give him my fake msn and I basically called him out on msn for everything next I e-mailed the online gf told her EVERYTHING including chat logs that prooved we were together then him and his friend started texting me and insulting me and im just like whatever i did the right thing I told the truth and he was lying to his online gf saying I was crazy obbessed but she didnt believe him she believed me and was thankful I e-mailed her...and we both learned a lot from each other apparently he told her about the pregnant scare girl and he also had sex with a woman that had baby but those are only ones we know of... and i told her i did all that stuff to get the truth and he started like taking stuff I said and twisting it around and telling people personal information about me but the girl was really cool about it...

we talked for hours and answered alot of questions and stuff and i found out he was with her sicne sept he was with me since oct. so then later that night my bff called his friend to tell him off for the mean texts he sent me and then tom took the phone from him and was like I never meant to hurt leah I just never felt a connection with her with like conversations or whatever.

and she started telling him this online gf is prob a fake if she wont meet him after almost a year and he like didnt want to give up on her and he was so pissed after what i ddi he wouldnt drink with his buddies. And soon afterwards he started leaving me threatening voicemails threatening to charge me with character indifferentiation and saying lots of mean things to me.

and then he would always text me bff saying iw as annoying and he was trying to get close to ehr to get revenge on me...but she hates him as much as I hate him so basically about 3 weeks ago he texted her and was like "I really need someone to talk to." and the next day hes on POF looking for a soulmate saying he hates infidelity and dishonesty so I basically sent him this.... "Wow. I can'tbelieve you have the nerve to text my bff and tell her you need someone to talk to. Are you a moron? what makes you think she would give you the time of day after what you did to me? I have been staying out fo your life why can't you stay out of mine? btw, you say you dont like infidelity and dishonesty but it was OK for you to do it to me? anyone who gets involved with you is cursed. Goodbye."

He never replied to that and haven't heard from him since although he was viewing me on POF. He paid for what he did to me and i don't regret it - I only did it to find out the truth and to show him how it feels to be hurt and I succeeded since I obvisually broke up him and his dream girl.

He also gave me a STD... I wasnt with anyone else I had oral sex a few months before with someone else but had my mouth tested and nothign came back and this was found from a mouth test...so I knew it was him and he kept saying i could of infected him, or i prob got drunk and had sex and dont remember it, and he tried to deny having sex with others but i had 3 sources to confirm that even his online gf told me what happened in detail. he said he had nothing but my doc said it doesnt show in men... well im just glad its over and I learned a lot from my experience. and He clearly paid for what he did to me and I dont regret any of it.

We both rejoin POF and he kept viewing me after months and I had my username as aliceinwonderland and my headline as how to get to wonderland? and he sent me a map to canada's wonderland! what the ?

Then 6 months later my msn randomly unblocked some contacts him included and he messaged me and i thought it was my other friend cause I never checked his email and he basically told me he wanted to take my friend whom she told off out for coffee.... she denies talking with him she hates him for what he did to me and has a bf, my ex is trying to get revenge on me with her. He told me he thinks about me 0 times, I went crazy used to be nice and we'd probaly neevr work out, I used to be nice but nuts for him and freaked him out, and he doesnt regret me cause it'll take him to somewhere else he wants to get to.

I basically told him he was crazy to think my bff would help him get revenge on me, i wanted him out of my life I dont have time for negative people, he was the worst thing that ever happend to em and i regret meeting him and oneday he'll learn what i did to him was for his own good. he also reported me on POF for harassment/fakes and I told him im flatterend he thinks of me that much to report me so other guys cant have me but im not interested in him anymore.

All said in done putting aside the "revenge" i did to show him what it felt like to be hurt. He said I was clingy but then again I only contacted him once 2x a week and he played along with my texts, said i wasnt communicative but my e-mail to him when he was un-responsive were honest and direct (I had many proof read them). I see the only problems lack of my dating exp (which could of been fixed), his communcation and doing other things together. Am I right that this guy is a douchebag?

I'm not hung up on him anymore I just want to learn if I did anything wrong (minus the revenege) so I can learn better for my next relationship.