I need a quick fix I HATE hickies and my boyfriend knows it

**chrysdior** · 10-15-2010 06:22 AM

I hate having hickies on my neck. I NEVER wear my hair down at work because it just gets in the way and I get too hot sometimes. I hate parrading around hickies on my neck. I think they look gross and I dont think that a woman my age (26) should have them. I never see adults with hickies on them.

Now I am forced to wear my hair down all the time until this thing goes away. I always tell him to NOT leave marks on me. But he did it last night because we were in the movies and I was more into the movie than anything else. I pulled away from him because I didnt want a mark but it was too late.

I dont think, being 26, i should be parrading around hickies like I'm 16 again and proud of them. To me, they are an embarassement and I dont want them shown.

Whats a quick fix for getting rid of them? I tried hiding it with makeup but its too red for that. And with the make up it looks like I have a skin disorder. Help.

**x.st.angel.x** · 10-15-2010 06:52 AM

You could possibly go to your local chemist and see if they have a cream for bruises? That should help

**WildChild** · 10-15-2010 08:53 AM

Find a guy who repects your body and limits.

**lizzardb63** · 10-15-2010 09:21 AM

Put your foot down. Tell him exactly how you feel about it and be stern so he knows you're serious.

**KMonte85** · 10-15-2010 09:21 AM

There really isn't much of a quick fix.. like any bruise, your body needs to reabsorb the blood, which will take time. I have heard that applying (non direct) ice helps, but I'm not sure of that.

Makeup, turtlenecks/scarves, and hair down are about your only options for hiding it. Oh, and don't forget the stern talk with your guy friend - to prevent having to deal with this predicament in the future.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 10-15-2010 02:26 PM

Bleh, he needs a swift kick in the arse. Not literally. But ya know.

It's like marking ones territory. Hickies don't look good, the act of giving one doesn't feel good, the act of receiving one doesn't feel good.....so what's the point? I'm with you in the fact that I think it's in very poor taste to walk around with them where people can see them. I think they look trashy and very juvenile.

So be a woman, step up and say no more. There's no quick fix that I'm aware of. You're gonna have to suffer through this one and put your foot down with this fella. Tell him it's a HUGE turnoff for you....maybe then he'll stop.

**Casey715** · 10-16-2010 02:24 AM

To the OP, #1 Ice, ice, ice! The first thing you want to do is apply a cold compress. A hickey is simply a bruise, ice will help to reduce the swelling and control the color. Do not keep the ice on your body for longer than twenty (20) minutes at a time. #2 Brush it out. Take a soft toothbrush and slowly and methodically brush the hickey in a circular motion from the innermost part to the outer part of the bruise. Brushing the hickey helps to start up circulation again. A penny for your hickey. A surefire method (although somewhat painful) for getting rid of a hickey is the coin method. Hold the skin taut and using the edge of a penny slowly scrape it across the hickey. The entire area will appear red and scratched, but it will no longer be bruised like a hickey. The upside is that a scrape on one's neck is easier to explain than a bruise (i.e. A tree scraped me when I was walking outside). Once again, use ice after the coin method to reduce redness and swelling and to speed the healing process. Fun fact. It cost 1.2 cent to manufacture a penny whose whole worth is just 1 cent. lol

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**Beautiful Disaster** · 10-16-2010 01:46 PM

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Ermmm.....caught up in the moment in a movie theatre while your partner is intently watching a movie? Yeah, maybe when you're 15, but 26?? And after your partner has explicitly told you she does NOT want hickies on her neck? He doesn't mind that she's very embarassed and uncomfortable with this. It's disrespectful for someone to do something to YOUR body when you have asked them not to. Period. Does it mean she should find a new man? No....not necessarily, but it does mean she needs to put her foot down.

**Casey715** · 10-16-2010 10:34 PM

So when your 26 you can't have tremendous passion for your girl? I'm 30 and still get caught up in my wife's sexuality. And..hem..hickeys don't happen in a second. Every hickey I ever given or received, she or I had more than enough time to pull away, IF WE WANTED TO.

**Hopeless Dork** · 10-17-2010 08:56 AM

Hickeys can happen on accident in the heat of the moment... but it sounds like he was just doing it to spite you. My boyfriend is a bit "gifted" and sometimes during sex I will bite down on his shoulder to get some composure lol... and one time I got his neck and sucked it and left him a hickey. I agree with the OP that hickeys are juvenile and completely tacky outside of high school, heck they are even tacky then but more acceptable. I was SO humiliated that I did that to him. He has a professional job and a mom to visit and I couldn't help but think they are all going to think his gf is a freak lol.

We finally got all healed from it and then one more time I got lost in the moment and left a tiny one and again... I was soooo embarassed, he has sensitive skin I guess and it doesn't take much to leave a mark... but that was the last time it happened... I no longer suck his neck not even for a second lol. I make sure to keep my mouth below the neck when its not against his lips and I had to actually think about it before but now its just second nature to leave his neck alone besides a few licks.

So they CAN happen by accident and they CAN happen in just a split second, but if you make a mistake once, and it sounds like he's done this in the past... you know how to not leave them and doing so when a partner doesn't want them is disrespectful ... and juvenile.