Is Honesty always best???
Hello everyone,
So me and this guy just started officially dating. And we were having an pen discussion and he asked me how many guys i had been sexually involved with. I don't want to ever have to lie to him and a part of me wants to tell him ( its not a ridiculous # but its enough) because thats what makes me, me. but then I have a feeling it will make him think somewhat different about me, I mean is it really necessary for him to know?
What do you think?
Honesty is necessary...Do not start off a relationship with lies!
Mutual respect is very, very important.
But, the past is the past.. IMO, As long as you and he are STD free..
You are with him now and should not live in the past or past involvements.
Originally Posted by Olympia
Thank you I appreciate your advice..I guess sometimes I get confused on what the right thing to do and "playing the game" if you know what I mean. Im still young and new to dating so I'm still tryin to figure out what works. I have heard that being an open book is not always the best and that guys like a little mystery to keep things interesting.
However, I do agree with you and yes we are both std free
It's none of his business. You don't have to lie, but you don't have to talk about it either. I'm a firm believer in keeping the past the past.
Don't *mess up a relationship with lies.
Last edited by sourpuss; 10-18-2010 at 12:47 PM. Reason: getting around profanity filter
He shouldn't even ask her to begin with in my opinion.
If you're uncomfortable telling him, then don't... or if you want to, but just not now - hold off on giving him any details until you're closer, more comfortable with each other, and he knows you better. Having just officially started dating, that is a pretty personal question to throw out there right off the bat.
I'm all for keeping the number to yourself... it really isn't necessary that he knows, as long as he knows that you're STD free, which you've confirmed.
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Tell him it's none of his business, firstly.And after all,did he tell you with how meny women he has been?If so, does he fear you'll take him for a ?Why should you be a and not him?If he ever judges u on that, he's not worth you.Your past is part of u and he should accept it.
Whatever you do, do not lie to him. Its up to you if you want to tell him. I believe he has a right to ask but you dont have to answer. Maybe he's just curious as to how experienced you are. theres lots of reasons why a someone would ask this. If he can end a relationship over your past then is this really someone you want to continue with?
Krystal
Tell you've slept with half the guys on the planet and had plans to try the other half until he came along and messed it up, so you are expecting him to make it up to you.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
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