Should I go out with my old high school buddy?

**collegegirl2010** · 10-20-2010 01:21 PM

I know I shouldn't be thinking about a relationship, since I just broke up with the guy that was evidently trying to use me. But I'm friends with this other guy, we've been friends since 11th grade and now we're in college together. I saw him the other day and spoke to him about the guy that was trying to use me. This guy has always been a good friend, always there when I needed to talk. He used to be one of the biggest in high, but never did he disrespect me. He reassured me I wasn't wrong for feeling the way I did, he told me I shouldn't have sex unless I'm ready. He is really easy to talk to. Now he wants to hang out and have fun, because he knows I'm always stuck in the house with nothing to do. But he never tries to have sex with me or anything like that, which is why I admire him. I want to know, is it okay to hang out with him knowing his past?

**sheriffJo** · 10-20-2010 02:25 PM

I haven't understood what is wrong with his past..Could you explain to me so as to help you as mauch as I can?

**Beautiful Disaster** · 10-20-2010 02:28 PM

Yeah....what's wrong with his past? Gonna need some more info to be able to give you any advice.

**sourpuss** · 10-20-2010 03:43 PM

I think she's saying he was a player in high school...?
I don't see why you could be friends and spend time with him.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-20-2010 04:27 PM

If you trust this person and his advice, then he has said " don't have sex unless you want to"... So, that part is your call isn't it?

He is a male, he's treating you like a friend, advising you but that does not mean at some stage, he may not try it on.. But, I doubt if you said, "no, I don't want to" that he wouldn't say " that's fine"...

You can't walk around worried if a man is going to try it on or not, therefore, whether you should hang out as a friend or not, you have to get to the point where you are in control, not fearing they ask and you may give in, because they asked, a simple, "right, this guy is a friend, only a friend, if he ever asks I'll say no, but I will also understand and take it as a compliment, instead of fearing that he may ask".

You are the one in control..

Stop fearing who is going to ask and who isn't, chances are most will.

Remember, you are the one in control.

CW

**collegegirl2010** · 10-21-2010 02:50 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

If you trust this person and his advice, then he has said " don't have sex unless you want to"... So, that part is your call isn't it?

He is a male, he's treating you like a friend, advising you but that does not mean at some stage, he may not try it on.. But, I doubt if you said, "no, I don't want to" that he wouldn't say " that's fine"...

You can't walk around worried if a man is going to try it on or not, therefore, whether you should hang out as a friend or not, you have to get to the point where you are in control, not fearing they ask and you may give in, because they asked, a simple, "right, this guy is a friend, only a friend, if he ever asks I'll say no, but I will also understand and take it as a compliment, instead of fearing that he may ask".

You are the one in control..

Stop fearing who is going to ask and who isn't, chances are most will.

Remember, you are the one in control.

CW

Thanks, And he's always had a crush on me,he told me himself... but he's never disrespected me like he did the other girls he messed around with. He knows how I feel about certain stuff and never tries to push me to do stuff I wouldn't want to...I'm not trying to pursue a relationship with him, but I'm just asking if you think it could be a possibility that he is really interested in me?