Thread: My boyfriend thinks holding hands is childish

Tell him that it makes you feel special when you hold his hand, that it makes you happy. If he shrugs it off and thinks its too much trouble to do that one little gesture to make you feel good... it points to a lack of interest in making you feel special, and points to a selfishness that will probably rear its head in other areas.

Most guys, just want to know what makes you happy, makes you feel good... from sex to affection to anything at all.. the average guy wants a happy girlfriend and will do the things she likes and wants once he knows what those are. The fact that he knows you want that, and while he may personally find it childish... too hot, stupid, etc... whatever he feels about it.. if he can't do such a little thing to make you happy, I'd worry he's not too concerned with your happiness.

Unless he's lived in a bubble he's already seen people of all ages hold hands, he's aware its something couples do and should not be shocked to know you'd want that from him.

How is he about affection in general? Does he kiss and hold you? Put his arm around you? Can you sit on his lap or run up and smooch him whenever you want? Does he pet your hair or express his feelings for you in non touchy ways?

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

Tell him that it makes you feel special when you hold his hand, that it makes you happy. If he shrugs it off and thinks its too much trouble to do that one little gesture to make you feel good... it points to a lack of interest in making you feel special, and points to a selfishness that will probably rear its head in other areas.

Most guys, just want to know what makes you happy, makes you feel good... from sex to affection to anything at all.. the average guy wants a happy girlfriend and will do the things she likes and wants once he knows what those are. The fact that he knows you want that, and while he may personally find it childish... too hot, stupid, etc... whatever he feels about it.. if he can't do such a little thing to make you happy, I'd worry he's not too concerned with your happiness.

Unless he's lived in a bubble he's already seen people of all ages hold hands, he's aware its something couples do and should not be shocked to know you'd want that from him.

How is he about affection in general? Does he kiss and hold you? Put his arm around you? Can you sit on his lap or run up and smooch him whenever you want? Does he pet your hair or express his feelings for you in non touchy ways?

In general he is really affectionate, he plays with my hair and holds me and all kinds of other things but grabbing his hand is just a kind of subconsious thing I do and I can't help but feel a little disapointed when he doesnt like it.

A man's perspective.... This guy needs to grow up! Or at least get rid of his immature/macho thing about holding hands. There are so many wonderful reasons to hold hands and it is the simplest of gestures.

If he "cares" about you and won't hold hands, what else won't he do? Have you had a face to face, heart to heart conversation with him about it? Communication is key and a lack of same can lead to a whole bunch of issues down the road.

I'm not an expert and I am far from perfect, but everyday I try to do something to improve the life of the one I love....ie: put a smile on her face! To me, that's what it's all about. I may not always succeed in doing so but without an attempt there can be no failure.....