Thread: Should I tell my friend guy how I really feel?

Just express your love to him! It's now or never. Openly discuss every aspect of your relationship and I believe you would win him.

...he believes that if a couple's been together a while, you should be willing to have sex.

And after a couple's been together a while, long enough to know he's worth losing your virginity to, I think it's long enough to know if you'd like to get married, and if he's not willing to marry you by that time, is he worth losing your virginity to?

In no way do I believe in saving sex til marriage, but if you do, you need to stand up for what you believe.

When is the best time to tell him?

I'd give it a little while. If it's only been a week, just let things move naturally. You want to make sure everything about him is the same from when you first knew him. People change, and you might not immediately see it. Make sure he hasn't. I think there are things you can do to show him how you feel, instead of coming right out and saying anything. Putting yourself in intimate situations will speak louder than words (at least, for right now). But being so early, I would advise you wait a little bit when you're not so overwhelmed by excitement of "falling in love".

Originally Posted by Little_Miss_Me

And after a couple's been together a while, long enough to know he's worth losing your virginity to, I think it's long enough to know if you'd like to get married, and if he's not willing to marry you by that time, is he worth losing your virginity to?

In no way do I believe in saving sex til marriage, but if you do, you need to stand up for what you believe.

I'd give it a little while. If it's only been a week, just let things move naturally. You want to make sure everything about him is the same from when you first knew him. People change, and you might not immediately see it. Make sure he hasn't. I think there are things you can do to show him how you feel, instead of coming right out and saying anything. Putting yourself in intimate situations will speak louder than words (at least, for right now). But being so early, I would advise you wait a little bit when you're not so overwhelmed by excitement of "falling in love".

Thanks for the advice! I'll try, even though its really hard for me...

if it were me, because its only been a week or so...i would try to be professional about it, if that makes sense, dont seem too desperate or eager and confess and scare him away if he doesnt feel the same because u dont wanna lose your friendship. so test the waters with a conversation like, i really am happy we reconnected, i really enjoy spending time with you or you really know how to make me smile and laugh, something like a one liner like that and see what his response is..if he says "yeah, me too" or yeah i'd like to continue this...then you would know it was safe to tell him your crushin on him..but dont be in any rush, if you feel like he has mutual feelings then try to wait til he brings it up first, but if your unsure, then there is no harm in telling him how you feel, just dont be overbearing

Originally Posted by whit4488

if it were me, because its only been a week or so...i would try to be professional about it, if that makes sense, dont seem too desperate or eager and confess and scare him away if he doesnt feel the same because u dont wanna lose your friendship. so test the waters with a conversation like, i really am happy we reconnected, i really enjoy spending time with you or you really know how to make me smile and laugh, something like a one liner like that and see what his response is..if he says "yeah, me too" or yeah i'd like to continue this...then you would know it was safe to tell him your crushin on him..but dont be in any rush, if you feel like he has mutual feelings then try to wait til he brings it up first, but if your unsure, then there is no harm in telling him how you feel, just dont be overbearing

Thanks...but I already told him. He said in these exact words " me and that don't get alone too good, but I have been thinking." And today we were both talking to each other about our problems, we both really opened up especially him. Thats why I think if we were dating, it'll work out...

im a little confused...he said " me and that dont get ALONE or ALONG to good, but I have been thinking. " thats what he said when you told him you were into him?!

Originally Posted by whit4488

im a little confused...he said " me and that dont get ALONE or ALONG to good, but I have been thinking. " thats what he said when you told him you were into him?!

yea, and I meant along...sorry.

i dont really understand what that means, he doesnt agree with you having feelings for him?? and was has he been "thinking" about?