How do you meet available guys?

**DREAM** · 11-13-2010 07:14 AM

I was just wondering some ideas of how to meet people.

I am not in my 20's or 30's and no longer interested in the club scene....

...I do not have a problem w/internet dating....however I do have a problem posting a picture...
....It would not be appropriate if my employers/co-workers saw and most of the sites you can see all the photos....even if you do not have a profile up or a member.

I do have alot of friends....many are busy like I am with young children, or they are married or with steady bf, and many just don't like to get out much or want to do anything fun....they are just too tired after working all week.

I go to a health club and I am very friendly and meet a lot of guys ....almost all of them are married ...which doesn't stop some of them from asking me out... but not interested.

Any suggestions would be helpful.

**caterpillar79** · 11-13-2010 09:21 AM

Go to places where the guys of your type mostly hang out. It sounds absurd, but it makes some sense to it. If you are into music, books/literature maybe hanging out at a bookstore would work - I did that, and actually met sensible people. If you like to be around people who are into visual arts - then visit museums, art galleries, attend art symposiums/exhibits, or join a class.

Find yourself and determine what you'd want for a mate and then look for him in places where he would most likely to hang out. And while you're at it, do not brush off other people - get to know them, too. Talk to them, befriend them and just be. By doing so, you also build up your confidence, which is attractive. Who knows, that old man you were talking to has a nephew he'd eventually introduce to you....focus on improving yourself and then it will come.

Best of luck.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-13-2010 01:39 PM

Your very sensible not to have a photo up on dating sites.. And, frankly, if you did, you'd end up with 20 year old's bugging you as well

What you are looking for, isn't easy to find, so stop looking...

Once we are in our 40's, the internet dating game will be guys who's marriage failed and are searching for company, and off course sex

Rarely does a guy who has no baggage ( not talking children) but, baggage such as she took him for everything, or kicked me out, can't work out why, so no understanding of women, go on those sites..

A dating agency where a man has to pay, however, is searching for the next venture of his life but wants a long life partner more so, as he has paid for someone to try to match him..

Other than that, I said what you want is hard to find, because it has to find you

Chance meetings, out for dinner with a friend, someone who attends your work one day, it will happen just put it out there into the universe, what you are wanting out of a man - not what he looks like, or how tall, just type and then believe it will happen.

The most important thing NOT to do, is NOT to stay at home, you have to keep doing the things your doing as well as Cat said, join new things, be out there....

I actually met mine accidentally, out to dinner and only when I quit searching but knew exactly what I wanted.... True story

CW

**thiruselvamk** · 11-13-2010 07:40 PM

FORTIES do become difficulties, finding a partner. You would know that in FIFTIES and SIXTIES, people finding partners and getting married. So it is just a ray of hope at forty, but plenty of sunshine as well. What I would suggest is, GET OUT OF THE SHADE, and STAND UNDER THE SUN. You will be spotted. Become a volunteer in social projects. Be active in the communal programmes. What about you religious cnetre...do they have classes; projects etc..... get involved. What about Toastmasters groups; Lions; Rotary and such other bodies. Often you will read about public seminars and previews in your locality or neighbouring townships.... tose are good places too.
Go a little early and you can say hello to a fairly good number. Every opportunity to meet and mix are good ways to find a partner. Best wishes.