What Should I Do?

**caterpillar79** · 11-19-2010 07:04 PM

Maybe call the CC company again and see how they could work around your issue without him going to jail as of yet? The signed and notarized IOU document sounds good but see if there are also other options the CC company could come up with.

**Hopeless Dork** · 11-19-2010 10:13 PM

Thanksgiving is about sharing and giving thanks and showing appreciation to your fellow man, friends, family... strangers, the less fortunate that yourself etc. He didn't invite you because he was being a jerk. He stold your car because he knew you wouldn't get mad enough to leave him over it, he ran up your credit card for the same reason. He says you take up too much space in the bed as an excuse. He is not treating you like a girlfriend, he is not even treating you as good as a friend, heck he is not even being as kind as he would be to a roomate.

You don't want another failed relationship? A relationship ending isn't the only means of one failing. Just because you are still technically together... would you call the way he treats you success? Do you realize that there are men out there that will make you feel special? That wouldnt dream of stealing from you? That would love to share their holidays with you and would consider sleeping next to you a dream come true?

Re-read everything just wrote and pretend your mom wrote it, or your baby sister, or your future daughter... or your best friend... what would you tell a woman that is being treated the way you are? Why don't you think you deserve better than you'd think any other woman would deserve?

**Seeker_Advice** · 11-20-2010 03:57 AM

I would recontact the CC company too. Maybe they have the guts to do what you don't. Maybe the actions taken by them will wake this guy up.

If you "allow" him to get away with bank fraud then you are enabling him and supporting his misbehavior. It's unfortunate, for him, that bank fraud is such a serious crime, but banks don't like to get ripped off. Ripping one off was HIS CHOICE not yours. Let him sleep in the bed he built for himself...bank fraud!

Bank fraud today....what will he try and get away with in the future? What will you enable him to try and get away with in the future?

It's time for him to go. Stop typing, start packing....his things.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-20-2010 01:44 PM

I don't know what I want. I dont want heartache I want love and I want to be cared about. I don't know why I am still with him except I guess I just don't want another failed relationship.

Do you know, that's what everyone in life wants, the problem is, "giving"... When you give all you have, including finances ( not the credit card) but someone had to be paying for food, for rent, utilities, in this place you both live in, bedding, furniture..... in hope to be loved, cared about after all, you've given your all right?

Relationships are about equality... A team, sharing, ......

Team - working together.
Sharing - being equal.

From your giving, he's taken advantage of you, the car, the credit card... Using don't you think?

Famiy - Thanksgiving... You are part of his life, therefore, should be included, not excluded another - distaste in your mouth right?

He now has a job, and he didn't say I will give you $100 of my first pay, thank you for being there for me did he - another - distate in your mouth.....

And, here you were suggesting a bed, a larger bed, which you would have found the money for I am sure, he states "money" yet he'd used all of yours and then some, when in reality, he's been texting behind your back, not including you with family, using your monies to get by and now he has a job....

You can bet your bottom dollar that this guy just takes what he wants in life... He has no idea how to love or to care, just take...

There has been no thanks, cuddles, hugs..

If you don't kick him to the curb, he will see this other girl, or others, find someone else to move in with and take, and leave you in the lurch.....

He doesn't care about failed relationships....

Take control of your life and next time give when you've been given to and know that it's equal... Then you've got a great catch....

A saying " when the going gets tough? The tough get going.... " Time to be a step ahead of this guy and start all your plans for you, before you end up with the whole rent to pay on your own and further debt...

If you want to be loved and to be cared for, start with you......he had his chance and used it all up.

CW

**Bieze** · 11-22-2010 08:22 AM

We started to break up on friday but then I had to go to class. I am conflicted. Part of me still wants to be with him. I feel like an abused woman co-dependant on her abuser. He doesn't abuse me, but I feel like it is similar. does that make any sense?