Thread: Ladies, dating at your workplace?

A couple of months ago there was a guy at work that I had a feeling liked me, he always tried to help me with everything and would make sure he took his breaks the same time as me... 1. I have a boyfriend , 2. I wasn't into him. I feel almost as if its insulting to a guy to point out to him right away that you have a boyfriend the minute it seems like he likes you.. like what if he doesn't. I always cringe when a guy says something nice to a girl and the first thing she says is 'I have a boyfriend' I feel like he should say ... whoa... slow down there lol, I asked if you wanted a soda I am not trying to have your babies!! But I probably should have mentioned to him that I did have one, however if I were single... I still would have not been interested so... not sure how important that factoid was.

Anyways he asked me if I would like to have dinner with him over the weekend... and you could cut the akwardness with a stick after I declined... he no longer offered to help me all the time, would almost ditch me at breaks, etc.

Now there was another guy in the office that we flirted mutually ... he was attractive, but I would never have wanted more than the occasional flirt because of my relationship status and the fact that I am in love. It was harmelss flirting, just to pass my day and I think it was the same for him too.

So just keep in mind that for some women and men... they may not be interested in a work hook up, but enjoy the casual (non harassing) flirts that make the day more interesting. If you cross it and ask the person out... they may say yes... they may so no, and its hard to get things back to the pre-awkward state.

I'd get more feedback than just flirting, making convo's about what she does on the weekends, hobbies interests... if its something you'd like to try mention you'd really like to try that sometimes... and just gauge her response, if she gets awkward you might want to pull it back and not express interest in asking to go with her... if shes like yah yeah you really should try it some time! And is enthusiastic about your interest... you can go from there. But do make sure this person is not below you in status in the company, or someone who feels her answer to you asking her out may affect her job.

Be sure to check your company policy on relationships and dating and its better to play it safe than sorry, try to see the difference between innocent flirting and someone that is interested in hanging out after work.

Start with something light perhaps, invited several co-workers out to dinner or a bar after work... including her and see if she goes... if she does there is a shot she's interested, if not... you haven't stuck your neck out too far for akwardness.

Hi Kevin!

It’s great that you have a special lady in mind that you want to ask out, I hope I can help with your questions…

1. Why would you consider dating a man from your job, rather than dating a man from the bar or club?

I have dated a man from my job and would do so again. The reason for this, I’ve always felt meeting in a bar or club never was really “serious”. I think for a lot of women meeting men at bars or clubs doesn’t have a lot of potential, so I think a lady would gladly date someone at her job.

2. Have you ever dated a guy from your workplace? How did he ask you out on a date? What was it about him that made you attracted to him in the first place? Or can you recommend some ways I should conduct myself at work that will make her more receptive to me when I ask her out on a date? Thanks.

I have dated a man from my job and he asked me out in a very sweet way - it was when it was dark out and he asked to walk me to my car and then he asked for my phone number and from there we talked and he asked me out. What attracted me to him (and also some ways the lady may be more receptive to you when you ask her) is this: he was always very friendly to me, always saying hello or stopping to chat for a couple minutes. Even though he was completely platonic about everything inside the workplace, I knew he was interested just by those things. I would recommend the same for you!

I hope everything works out!

when i like a guy i usually laugh allot, smile, and constantly want to and try to be around him. but i know other girls are different. some do some hard core flirting, some keep it to them selfs until they make you think they don't like you until they are ready to admit that they have feelings for you.