Am I too sensitive?

sos815 · 05-15-2007, 08:57 PM

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now and in the beginning of our relationship we started as friends so we have been really close for a little over a year now. He always listens to me when I talk and he always calls me everyday but lately I have been feeling like he doesn't really want to talk to me when he calls. I don't understand why he even calls. I tried to talk to him about it and he says he calls because he wants to say good night, which is really sweet but I feel like if we are already getting to the point of him not wanting to make conversation then how will it be a few years from now. He says that he just doesn't like talking on the phone but then I feel like an idiot for talking when he doesn't really want to be on the phone. Am I being too sensitive or should I be worried that he is getting too comfortable with the relationship. He is really sweet and does call every night to tell me he loves me. Could someone please tell me if they think I am being too sensitive or any advice of what I should do??? I am starting to feel like a stupid girl who talks too much. Thanks alot.

**Nygirl5885** · 05-18-2007, 07:23 AM

girl you need to relax

I think that he cares about you ... but like they say the honeymoon stage is over. My boyfriend and i used to talk everynight for hours. but 2 1/2 years later we don't do that anymore. Its not a bad thing or even something to freak out about. every relationship starts to evolve / develop. if he's being good to you and making you happy then let him be. its not bad for him to feel comfortable with you and the relationship. isn't it suppose to get like that? it sounds like you got used to somethings also and now that he doesn't do it anymore you're freaking out.

so my advice is to simply relax, don't pressure him, and enjoy with ease the relationship.

sos815 · 05-21-2007, 09:35 PM

Thank for the reply NYgirl. Things are better and I am relaxing more. I just got out of a 14 year marriage and I am not used to the relationship thing but I am learning as I go so is he since he hasn't really been in a relationship in a long time either. I think that it is great that we are best friends and are able to talk about everything without getting really upset at eachother. I am not used to having such an understanding apologetic guy. I have no problem apologizing for my faults but when the guy can't realize that he has hurt your feelings then he is not for me. He is really great and I am going to "evolve" with him as you said. Thanks alot.

05-15-2007, 08:57 PM	#1
sos815 Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 22	Am I too sensitive? So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now and in the beginning of our relationship we started as friends so we have been really close for a little over a year now. He always listens to me when I talk and he always calls me everyday but lately I have been feeling like he doesn't really want to talk to me when he calls. I don't understand why he even calls. I tried to talk to him about it and he says he calls because he wants to say good night, which is really sweet but I feel like if we are already getting to the point of him not wanting to make conversation then how will it be a few years from now. He says that he just doesn't like talking on the phone but then I feel like an idiot for talking when he doesn't really want to be on the phone. Am I being too sensitive or should I be worried that he is getting too comfortable with the relationship. He is really sweet and does call every night to tell me he loves me. Could someone please tell me if they think I am being too sensitive or any advice of what I should do??? I am starting to feel like a stupid girl who talks too much. Thanks alot.

05-18-2007, 07:23 AM	#2
Nygirl5885 Neighborhood Watch Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Ma Posts: 100	Relax!!!! girl you need to relax I think that he cares about you ... but like they say the honeymoon stage is over. My boyfriend and i used to talk everynight for hours. but 2 1/2 years later we don't do that anymore. Its not a bad thing or even something to freak out about. every relationship starts to evolve / develop. if he's being good to you and making you happy then let him be. its not bad for him to feel comfortable with you and the relationship. isn't it suppose to get like that? it sounds like you got used to somethings also and now that he doesn't do it anymore you're freaking out. so my advice is to simply relax, don't pressure him, and enjoy with ease the relationship.

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05-21-2007, 09:35 PM	#3
sos815 Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 22	Thank for the reply NYgirl. Things are better and I am relaxing more. I just got out of a 14 year marriage and I am not used to the relationship thing but I am learning as I go so is he since he hasn't really been in a relationship in a long time either. I think that it is great that we are best friends and are able to talk about everything without getting really upset at eachother. I am not used to having such an understanding apologetic guy. I have no problem apologizing for my faults but when the guy can't realize that he has hurt your feelings then he is not for me. He is really great and I am going to "evolve" with him as you said. Thanks alot.