Thread: Ladies, harassed or creeped out at work?

At WORK... your best bet is to assume NO woman is interested unless she gives OBVIOUS signs to the contrary, not the other way around. I just mean its a slippery slope when you assume women are interested and look for any sign to disprove that .. as women, most women are less likely to show negetives than they are positives in the work place. So just assume that every woman you meet at work is being nice and friendly because you are a co-worker. Don't assume any of them are interested unless they go above and beyond the smiles and being polite.

Once a woman at work is creeped out ... you've gone too far so don't keep pushing the envelope assuming women are interested until they give the ackkk weirdo leave me alone face (not calling you a weirdo btw) Just keep everything completely platonic assume they are NOT interested unless they give off a STRONG, and I mean strong vibe of interest.

And even if they flirt, there are some people that like to flirt in the office but are attached, if you have a woman that you think is flirting with you... you might want to learn if she's already committed to someone before you end up asking her out to get 'i have a boyfriend/husband/5 cats'.

Touching you when they talk, rule that one out if they are the type that touches EVERYONE when they talk, going out of there way to see you... repeatedly (not just once or twice). Just because a woman gets you for breaks etc... doesn't mean she wants to date you, she could want a friend or just want company and think you are nice.

The work place is such a no-no for so many reasons... one that if you make any woman feel uncomfortable or uneasy from unwanted advances... that is the definition of sexual harrassment in the workplace pretty much... so really I would suggest fishing from a different pond unless she makes it UNQUESTIONABLE that she is into you and wants you to ask her out. And if she is is beneath you in status at the workplace, don't even consider it.

Yes...in every job I've ever had except for my current one.

Anytime a guy in the workplace shows me "special" attention, meaning he gives me way more attention than he does everyone else, I see a red flag. This is bad for a woman on several levels. First, the guy could be a total creeper that ends up sexually harassing you if you give him even the slightest of attention back. Second, if people see him constantly at your desk or in your area, the rumor mill will start. This is very detrimental to a woman in business, especially in a business where men are more prevalent because then she becomes a sexual object instead of a well respected educated intelligent woman. Trust me.....this I've experienced. Women who want to be very successful in their positions, who want to advance in their careers based on their merits and accomplishments (not their looks) have to be VERY careful how the behave, and how they allow others to behave around them in the workplace.

My suggestion is to stay away from any type of flirting in the workplace. You want to be taken seriously by your coworkers and superiors so stay away from "play".

I agree with HD - just assume every woman there is uninterested. Assuming every woman COULD be interested and looking for those signs will come back to bite you in the butt.

And, yes, I have been sexually harrassed at work before...by a former boss, no less. What sorts of things did he do? Give me the "once over" every day, tell me flat out that I had a nice body and probably looked great naked, told me I was walking bowlegged after visiting a guy I was involved with with that horrible leering grin he used to get, and trying to get into sexual topics of conversation. I was very close to quitting.

What did I do? I said "no" and "please stop" in every single possible way I could think of - from the very polite to the downright rude - and he never did. When the another (male) coworker found out that he was doing this to both me and another young woman working there at the time, he called HR, and shortly after that the guy was fired. And of course it was our fault for making him think we liked it. I'm not sure what part of "Do NOT go there with me - stop." says "Yes, please, keep making me totally uncomfortable because I absolutely love it." Not that I'm bitter or anything.